Being in The Present

Hello Spitfires!!!! 🙂

I know I haven’t posted for a while, sorry guys, but I have been in the Present. What does it mean and why is it very important? I will let you know in this post. 

As I mentioned previously I am not from the UK, but I have lived here since 2013. So it means from time to time I am back to my country and visit my family and friends. I have been in my country and I spent the holidays there with my loved ones. I had such an amazing time. Lots of food, drinks, laughs, talks, games and all the fun you can imagine. But how does it explain why I was off writing? Well, I was in the Present.

Most people (including me) can lose easily to planning the future, organizing the next steps to achieve dreams, thinking of the next holidays, new challenges and trying to figure out what the Future will bring. Especially at the beginning of a new year. To plan ahead is very important and to make steps for the future is essential, but so many times we are just lost in the Future and we don’t recognise the amazing things happening around us. So we clearly are not in the Present.

When I am with my family and friends, I like to be really with them. Like to listen to them, see them and be there for them. Not just physically, but emotionally and give them all my attention. Maybe because I don’t spend that much time in my country, when I am there, I like to be lost in the landscape, the smalls, the sounds, study the nature and just feel it. I know it sounds so cheesy (especially from me), but this is the truth. It is very important to me to store every single moment when I am there. Even though I feel a bit guilty why I am not doing my usual yoga, run, exercises, meditation, and other “positive techniques” when I am at home, but this is normal, when you are on holiday, you do not follow your everyday life routine. It is impossible and unnecessary, because you do more for your positive attitude, if you are just enjoying your time when you are on holiday.

Even when I am back in my life, I try to discover new things and try to be in the Present as much as I can. It is hard to be in the Present in our everyday life. I assume just like me, you have a routine for everything. Wake up at the same time everyday. Go to your workplace (even if it is in the living room), have a daily routine, lunch break, close your laptop, go home, prepare dinner, etc.Really hard to be in the Present like that.

I have a little game that I am playing to stay in the Present during my everyday routine. Most of us use public transport. So when I am on the tube, bus, train, airport or every other crowded places (if you work from home you can do this when you are in the shop to do the grocery shopping or just during your daily walk), I give myself at least 5-10 minutes to have a look around me and asking the same question: “ What can I love/like here and now?” So easy, but it helps a lot to stay in the Present. Maybe you like someone’s hair, boots, jackets, the book they read, the phone, the bags, the attitude, the jewellery, anything. Funny and useful, because you are in the Present and focus on positive things.When you do this game obviously you cannot focus on 2 things at the same time, so you are not able to think about your future, job,dinner etc., because you are looking at something you like just right Now. Also it is good, because you are positive, you have positive vibes when you are focusing on something you like or love. 

The key is where you focus. Even if I feel worried about something or stressed, I stop for 5 minutes (yes, go to the loo, so no one can interrupt or say that you are just stopped. It is easier if you work from home for sure) and have a look at what I can like/love. If you cannot see anything (because you are in the loo and if you are not a loo liker, hard to find anything nice), just think about and list at least 5 things why/who you can be grateful for. 

For me it always works, BUT we are not the same and that’s normal. As I always say, question me, because I do not talk about facts, so I will never say that it is the best for you too. I think it is worth giving it a try.

During this year I have decided to share with you the exercises I do daily, weekly and monthly. I will let you know about how I became more positive and how I transformed from a very pessimistic person to a very optimistic one.

Stay with me, have a super time and enjoy this amazing Spitfires’ life I will try to show you!

XOXO,

Miss Spitfire

P.S.: You can ask any question, any time if you wish, just find me on Facebook, Instagram or here via comments. 🙂