5 steps to gather the courage to start something new

Hello Guys,

I hope you are well and not too depressed because of the cold weather.

As I mentioned, I have a new project and you will see it very soon. The website will be updated and I will add my Life Coach and Motivational speaker services. Why and why now? Excellent questions!😅

I created this blog because I wanted to help people and because sometimes I have to give out what is inside me. 

Since I was a kid I knew I wanted to work with people and help them. But for so long I had no idea how can I do that. In 2021 I’ve met coaching and I knew this was my way. However, a lack of confidence held me back until now. Like so many of you, I questioned myself and never imagined that people would ask my opinion or why anyone would choose me to help. Who am I? Just a no one! A small village girl with a big mouth!😅 Plus what my parents and friends will say? Come on, I will only embarrass them. I was afraid, I would end up alone and no one would support or love me. So I have done nothing. 

During the past 1,5 years, I helped friends with their divorce, strangers and teenagers with their lack of self-confidence, friends with their everyday life problems and many issues. I have done it for free because I wanted to help. Even though I am only 35 years “young”, I have been through a lot. My motivation is to give some value to the people in my life. That’s the whole purpose of this blog too. If I can help only one of you with my words, it was worth it. 

So the people around me who I helped told me that I gave so much to them, why am I not doing it as a career? Well, I felt I was an impostor. I learnt those techniques and tools from other people. People who are more famous, smart and successful than I am. Motivational speakers such as Mel Robbins, Jenna Kutcher, Dean Graziozi, Roxy Nafusi, Almási Kitti and the list goes on and on. 

But recently I listened to Mel Robbins’ podcast  (I know, sorry, I adore this woman. 😅)and she said that this is just insecurity and we have to face our fear. If someone has done it, everyone can do it. And that’s just hit me on my face. I write about self-confidence here and I didn’t take my advice. 

So I started to do her Let Them theory (btw she published the book you can buy here. No, I don’t get any commission for this, I just love the theory and it works for me.😅) which by the way I wrote about it here. As Mel advises everyone, I let people judge me. I let people misunderstand me. I let people think what they want to think about me. And I let me don’t care. I let myself do what I want to do. It let me live my life the way I want to. I let myself help people in my way if that makes me feel good and happy. I am forever grateful for this woman because she changed my life so many times in many ways, and I hope you let me help change yours. 

Based on her lessons and many others in the past more than 10 years since I started to study motivation, mindfulness and self-development, I created my “system” to start working on my goals. These steps helped me to start so many things and I follow them now to create the life coaching/motivational speaker side of my life. 

So here are my 5 steps on how I gathered the courage to start something new (again😅):

1. Identify the “problem”. In my case, the problem was my people-pleasing. I thought too much about what other people would say, do or think about me. I was paralysed by the fact that some of my friends and family members would turn back on me.

2. Work on yourself and overcome the fear. This is where I used the Let Them theory. I let go of the negative thoughts, feelings and self-talk. I kept telling myself that I let them react how they want to react and let me be myself. I started to catch my negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones. I accepted my fears, but I didn’t let these feelings keep me from taking action.

3. Identify your goal. What do I want? I wrote everything down in very itemised and specific ways. You must be clear and 100% sure about the “what you want” part, otherwise it’s not a goal, it’s just a dream. You must declare your goal. Have to have a clear vision. In my case, I wrote down that I am a “professional” life coach/motivational speaker and how many clients I have per week. (Be careful with the words and make sure you speak like it already happened.)

4. Have a strategy. I researched life coaching businesses, their websites and social media accounts to get ideas of what and how to do. What are the steps? What do I need? How can I be seen? What kind of content and posts should I create? How my website should look like? Who do I need to speak with?

5. Take a small step. As I mentioned earlier, my website is not done, yet, but I made my first step. And it was to reach out to an amazing human with a huge heart, who is helping me to edit my site. Yes, sometimes the first step is to ask for help. In life, there are only a few things that you can achieve alone. You need other people’s help to get the success you wish. I am lucky enough to have wonderful people around me and I am forever grateful for them. 

I truly believe these steps simply because they worked for me in the past on several different occasions. And I hope they will work for you too. During a life coach session, we will go through these steps (and many more) and basically, I will hold your hands on your way to achieve what you want. These 5 steps are only the beginning of a long road to success. As I said, at the moment the service is in progress, but if you don’t want to miss it when it’s up and running, or you have any questions, please follow me on the social media platforms or the blog (links below the post). 😘 The blog will be only in English in the future too. However, the life coach section will be available both in English and Hungarian. (That’s one of the reasons why it is not up and running yet! It’s so hard to live a bilingual life! 😅)

So please give it a try to my “magic steps”, SpitFire” up and have fun while you become more confident than you can ever imagine! 😘

Oh, and please don’t forget: Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.😘

XOXO,

Krisz😘

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