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Hello, Bunnies
Happy Easter or Happy Bunny, as we usually say in Hungary! 🐰
Easter is one of my favorite holidays, not only because it is a four days weekend, but because finally, it is Spring. Flowers everywhere, colors, nature is waking up, the days are getting longer and the weather is starting to warm up. Easter is about rebirth, renewal, and the celebration of the colors. (At least to me.)
So many traditions attached to Easter depend on the family or which part of the country you goes. So I decided to talk about my family’s Easter traditions. When I was a kid, we always decorated the house and colored boiled eggs. My grandma did it with onion leaves and made them brown. Sometimes she used wax to draw on the eggs. At home, we bought some egg coloring kits with stickers, but either way, the end was beautiful and colorful eggs.
Saturday my mum cooked the ham and the eggs, as these are the traditional breakfast for Easter morning. Of course, she cooked and baked as well, because the family gathered together on Sunday for a lunch. Also we “built the nest for the Easter Bunny”. My brother and I went to the garden with one of our mother’s baskets and we collected some grass, to make sure the Bunny has the best and nicest place, so he could bring us lots of chocolates. (Back then usually the kids got mostly chocolates, toys, and some money from their grandparents. Now it is a bit different because Easter became Spring’s Christmas, and the kids get toys and of course money after a certain age.)
When Easter morning came we woke up we were so excited to see what the Bunny brought for us. Also, the family set down together and eat the traditional Easter breakfast. This breakfast contained ham, boiled eggs, horseradish sauce, some vegetables, and fresh bread. (It was funny because we grow up like we never really had breakfast, we just grabbed a cup of hot cocoa and ate first around 10 am, so the Easter breakfast was delicious, but we did not really a huge fan of eating in the morning. 😅) Usually this is the same everywhere in Hungary, mostly because of religious reasons, even if our family wasn’t really a religious family. As a Christian (even though I am not practicing my religion) Easter is a big celebration after 40 days of fasting, the first time you can eat meat. Especially on Good Friday, the meat was forbidden (good for vegetarians and vegans, less good for me.😅) As I said I do not really want to go to the religious side of the holiday.
So after we had our breakfast, we had a look at the nest and we were so happy and grateful that Bunny loved us and we always get something and then we waited for the rest of the family. Slowly arrived our grandparents and sometimes our uncle too. They all brought something for us and the nest just got full of goodies.
At 12am we started our lunch. We always had chicken soup, breaded pork and/or chicken, stuffed meat, oven-baked meats with rice, mashed potatoes, some salads, and pickles. My mum always made at least 2-3 kids of cakes and grandmas brought their creations too. Yes, we were so full, so the rest of the day we just enjoyed the sunshine outside our garden and talked about everything. As kids, we played with the new toys and had so much fun.
Easter Monday is much more interesting in Hungary. This day is known as “Shower Monday” too. Every woman gets sprinkled or showered with water or perfumes and men get colored eggs, chocolates, or even money as rewards. The original tradition was actually that the boy shows his interest to the wed-aged girl like this. Always the single girls get sprinkled and no one else really. Somewhere if the boy got a basket (not only eggs) in return that showed he is the chosen one and even the girl’s family blessed his interest and after that, they were allowed to start “dating”.
Nowadays it is a bit different but still, women get their sprinkles/showers, but now doesn’t matter their age and marital status. Actually, if you are a man and you want peace in the house, you just shower every woman.😀 The “belief” is in Hungary that the woman must be showered “locsolni”, otherwise they will get wither, just like the flowers. The boys go around the village or in the city neighborhood and usually, they use perfumes to sprinkle, but somewhere (mostly in the villages) still water is preferred. This is the man’s choice, and these days girls give them money instead of eggs or baskets. The boys create some nice or sometimes funny verbs where they “ask” the girl if she allows the sprinkles (not that a girl really has a choice 😅), and these verbs make the tradition funnier.
I always wanted to be a boy on this day. My brother was so shy and he just sprinkled the women in the family, he never went around the village, but he doubled his pocket money on this day. On the other side… well until the end of the day, I get wet (come on!) and I had at least 5-6 different perfumes smell mixed up on me and I couldn’t wait to go home (usually Easter Monday we celebrated in my grandmother’s house) and wash my hair.
But still, I love Easter and all of those traditions. I think especially after we grow up, we forget the fun and Easter can be a very fun day.
Some families or sociates in Hungary make Easter games for the kids, such as eggs painting, contests, “find the eggs competition” (hide the eggs or chocolates around the place and kids have to search for them) or my favorite was the egg rolling game (whose egg went farthest was the winner). Easter is mostly about the kids, but still, families gather together, eat and celebrate.
I hope you will have a lovey Spit(firey)Easter and the Bunny brings you so much fun, love, and sweets.
And don’t forget during the big celebration, that you are a Hero, no matter what!😘
XOXO,
Krisz😘
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3 steps, and you have a price tag
Hello, hello
I hope you had a lovely week and had so much fun. As I mentioned in my previous post, I started to write this post and I was almost done, but then life happened and I re-wrote it. Don’t worry, I still write about the price tags, how, when, why, and what to do with those (little) buggers. I will share my 3 steps technique. 😎
We all know that if you want to buy something, you will get a little tag on it with the price. That’s normal when you go shopping. Doesn’t matter if it is clothes, shoes, groceries, electronics, or any other stuff, it will come with a price tag. We also know that nothing is free in the world. We pay for our internet, electricity, gas (for the last two we pay a lot nowadays), hairdresser, cosmetics, nail technician, gym, etc. So we pay for everything that we want. And these things are normal and we do not even think about these tags, because we know these are the “extras” and we learned at a very young age that we have money, so we pay for the things we buy exactly the amount that is on these little tags. (Unless you are in Hungary in the market, there you must negotiate the price Baby! 😅)
What are the price tags? Of course, we know that these things will tell us how much it cost the desired item or service we wish to have. Simple, easy, and common sense. No one needs to think about how much a new dress will cost (which by the way you need because you do not have anything to wear on Saturday night when you go out with the girls… that’s obvious), because there is the price tag and you can decide by the price if it is worth it for you or not (guess what, the new dress will worth the price and no, doesn’t matter the numbers, trust me). And we all know this, but there is something that no one teaches us in school, no one explains and everyone assumes that you know…everything comes with a price tag means, literally EVERYTHING, even your dreams and especially your goals.
The question is never whether you will have to pay for your wishes or not…no. The question is always: how much? But with our dreams, goals, and desires it is tricky because you cannot find a price tag that will tell you that, if you decide to chase your dreams means you will not see your family for maybe at least 1,5- 2 years, do you want this? No. No one will provide a price tag for those things, but trust me you will get them sooner or later. So how do you know the price tag, if no one telling you? How you can decide if your price tag is worth it or not? Well, that’s why when you set up a goal, you have to set up a price tag too. Otherwise, if you wait for Life/God/Universe to give you one… well, I am 99% sure you will not like it, but far worst, you will hate it as hell. Life always tests us. Just like a mother testing their child if they are sure they want pizza for breakfast (yes, for breakfast, and yes they will want it), Life will test you the same way. It will ask you if you are sure you want that desired thing. Also if we think about it is easier than with the other things in our life, because if you go to the grocery store and they say the milk’s price is xyz, you buy the milk for that price and you are not able to change it (okay, I know you can buy in another store, or find the cheapest in elsewhere, or go to the Hungarian market and negotiate, but please stick to the theory). However, you can decide how much will cost your goals, and how much you are willing to pay for them. Also, you can increase or decrease the amount, at any time.
So the last question is, how do we set up our dreams’ prices? (We already decided what we want, and we have our “why” too, furthermore we even brainstormed what things will make us happy, so that could be indicators as well.) How I do, it when I set up a price for my goals, is super easy. Only 3 steps.
- I take a piece of paper and write everything that I think I will have to do to achieve my goal. Everything. Even the smallest things. I usually do not stop until I have at least 50 items on my list, that’s the minimum and no maximum. (brainstorm)
- Once it is done, I will start to rate them from 1 to 10 on how likely I will want to do the thing. 1 is for me the “No, Not at all, Never Ever” and 10 is the “Hell yeah! Let’s do this Baby!”
- When I have the rated list, I will just summarize the things which were rated between 8 and 10. To make sure it is clear. After that just mark 3 or 5, so you will not feel overwhelmed and you most likely will do those 3-5 things. Guess what? Those things will be your goal’s price tag.😘
Do you see? I told you it is very easy. Okay so let’s see an example from my past and then I will let you have fun with your own price tags. So during the pandemic, I decided to lose weight. Not because I was fat, but because I wanted to be healthier and in better shape. I knew I wanted to lose at least 5kg (sorry guys, you convert it for yourself, I can’t and don’t want to please everyone😘). (I have done the 7 levels of deep, below the “What is your “why”?” post, someone asked me for an example from me regarding this exercise and shared there in a comment my “why?” for this.)
- I have set down and listed everything that I thought I could do to get the result. For example, exercise 2 hours a day, lift weights, eat more vegetables and fruits, leave bread, no pasta, no sweets, no hamburgers, drink at least 2l water a day, sleep at least 8 hours, etc. The list was soooooo long.
- Sleep, drink water, eat more healthy stuff: Absolutely 10, “Hell yeah!” I will do those things, I love them. Easy baby!😎 But no pasta, no bread, no sweets?!?!?! NOOOO. “No, Never Ever!!!” 😱
- Last step, to make sure I will not feel overwhelmed and exhausted, I made a list that every day I will drink 2l water, sleep at least 8 hours, and eat healthier, but I will count calories (eat everything, but make sure smaller portions), Sunday is my cheat day, so I can eat sweets and exercise a lot (which is easy for me because I am still hyperactive).
This was my price tag. I could and would pay this price to lose weight. I can confirm that I did. In 6 months I lost 5kg without suffering because I find my way, the way was fit for me and I knew what the price would be and I was willing to pay it.
Also very important as I always say, to listen to yourself. This exercise helped me to set up my goals or achieve them, but may it will not be yours. I have tried many other things until I found the techniques which work for me. So try it and if it works, fine, if not, well don’t worry, there are millions of other exercises. You just need to find the one which will fit you. Oh, and you can change it just as the shops do with their prices… either you can raise or lower down. No limits and no failure if you feel that something is not worth it anymore.
Now, come on, GOOOO, and set up your goals’ price tags, but before you start don’t forget to (Spit)fire up yourself.
Love you guys and make sure you know that: Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.😘
XOXO,
Krisz😘
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Dolce far niente
Hello!!!!!
I know it’s been two weeks since my last post and I promised I would share some tools to get out of feeling burnt out, but life happened. Actually, I started to write about the price tags last week and I am almost done so that you can read it soon, but first I wanted to talk about doing something really important from time to time for our perfect healing. It is “Dolce Far Niente”.
I know you are confused and you think I am actually crazier than ever (except if you are one of my Italian friends or readers because I am sure you guys are laughing so hard). That’s okay. I started to learn Italian. Actually, I am very good at the cookies’ names now, which is so hard because I have to try a lot to know about their meanings, but everything for learning.😅 As you all know I love Italy and everything that is Italian, but this came from totally elsewhere. And I confused you more.😅Sorry, this is when ADHD hits during writing. Let me clear the air.
Last Sunday I woke up after a really nice and relaxing sleep and I felt I want to do nothing. Not because I was sad or depressed, no. I actually just wanted to have one PJ day. I haven’t had it since a long time ago and I just felt I want to stay in my bed, watch movies, and not even bother to dress up. Then I felt the guilt. I am sure you all know the feeling. You want to do nothing, but you have miles-long to-do lists. Clean the house, cooks something for dinner, walk the dog, take care of your kids, maybe do some laundry, etc. I know just as my list goes on and on and on and always came new things, as yours too. I was hesitating. I should come out of bed and do my million tasks, because on Monday I will have to go to the office again (okay, I am lying now, because my Monday was off last week, but that’s another different story) and when I arrive home, I feel so tired and the lists of the excuses are the only longer list than my to-do list. So I felt guilty and lazy. I have projects in my life and if I stay one day in my bed, I waste so much time actually doing something to feel better and achieve my goals. (We talked previously about what is the difference between being lazy or you give yourself the necessary time to heal, but we will later on for sure.) I started to panic as well, so total chaos and it was five minutes after I had my coffee. And then the miracle happened. I realized the most important tool I have to share with you first is “Dolce Far Niente”. (Also I have to use it in my life.)
I love Eta, Pray, Love movie, not just because they happened to be in the most beautiful places in the World or because Julia Roberts is one of my favorite actresses…no. I love this movie (and the book too) because it teaches you basic lifehacks. Unfortunately, not all of us can hit the pause button and just quit our life for a year to travel around the world and find ourselves, but if you watch the movie, you can discover so many lessons.
And one of the most important is “the sweetness of doing nothing”. That’s what dolce far niente means. Of course, Italians are the masters of it, but we can learn as well. And if we wish to be healthy we should. I don’t say that you leave your kids behind and go for a weekend alone to rest. Not everyone can afford it or do it, but I say that you should have at least 1-2 hours each week when you don’t do anything and do not feel guilty. If you can have a day even better. To have time with yourself is just as much important then to get the tools and doing the actual work. You have one life, do whatever you like to do, what makes you feel happy. Of course, until you not hurting other people around you. I don’t say you should quit your life, we all have responsibilities but start to think about what you really want, what you enjoy.
You know what? This is today’s tool kit, called brainstorm. Take a piece of paper and write down everything you like in your life. Every single thing that makes you happy. List what makes you excited. Everything. We have five main aspects of our life: Social, financial, mental, physical, and emotional. This is the exercise. So simple. Just write down each category and write next to them what makes you happy. Once it is done, you will feel better and you know where to start your healing process. Circle three things (the most important ones in the category) and start to focus on how you can make them more.
This is how you will enjoy your life, this is how you will enjoy the sweetness of doing nothing. Because you need it. Everyone needs it. So guess what I have done last Sunday? Yes, you are right, nothing and I enjoyed all the minutes of it.😊
We don’t always need to overcomplicate our lives, just listen to your soul/instincts/gut, and it will tell you what you need. And if it says that you need to do nothing…well, who you are to question the big Universe/God/Mother Earth/ All Living? Put your hands on it and enjoy your gelato.
Oh, and don’t forget: Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.😘
XOXO,
Krisz😘
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What is your “why”?
Hello
As I mentioned in my previous posts I burnt out and I am working on getting back on track. I shared with you my 4 steps to start and also I talked about people pleasing. However, days passed and my motivation started to lower a bit and that’s when I realized that I forget to tell you the power of “why”. It must be a reason behind every plan, every goal, and everything that we do. And that’s what I call “my why”. ( Not just me, many other and much clever people call it this.😅)
What is the “why”? Why is it so important? How you can find it?
Let’s start with the what. It is the reason for your actions. It can be absolutely anything from love, kids, money, wealth, fame, and health, to even your own nephew. (Yes, he is my biggest reason nowadays, but let’s talk about this later.) Doesn’t matter what you are doing in your life, it is a reason behind it. From waking up to going to sleep, there is a reason. The most important is when you identify your goals and write them down, you know why you want them. You must have a powerful reason to achieve your goals otherwise when Shit happens (and it will trust me), you just simply give up and you will be in the start again…sooner than later. You must identify what makes you do what you do, so you will be able to create plans to make sure you do the steps to achieve the goals.
Why is it so important? It is important because as my favorite motivational speaker says all the time: “motivation is garbage”. (Mel Robbins) When you identify your goals you feel full of energy and you can concur the World with only one breath. But days come and go and it will be days when you don’t even want to get up from your bed, and definitely don’t want to take steps toward your goals. Motivation will leave you. And that’s when you need to look at your “why”. If this is not strong enough, you will most likely leave your goals and they will only become dreams. Also when you have a why, you can start to set up what you are willing to do to achieve it. Because my friends everything comes with a price tag. The only question is how much you are willing to pay for what you want, and how strong is your why.
How you can find your “why”? Well, we all think it is easy. Obviously, we know why we want to be rich or why it is so important to our health. We all know why we want the perfect shape or why we want to be a CEO. But do we really know? Most of the time we think we do know, or at least that’s what we think until we do a very simple exercise. It calls 7 levels deep.
This exercise came from another brilliant motivational speaker and life transformer person, I really admire, Dean Graziosi. The book where he introduced this exercise is called Millionaire Success Habits. This is a must-read book for everyone who wants to transform their life. Since this exercise was introduced, many other people use it and you can find it on the internet, just simply type “7 levels deep exercise”. It is free and you can download it from so many places like here. In my opinion, it is a very powerful tool and makes so much clarity on why you want what you want.
As I mentioned previously my nephew is my biggest “why” at the moment. I am working on a huge project in my life this year (I promise once I am there I will let you know) and hopefully the outcome will be spending more time with my family and especially with my nephew. So every time when I struggle or feel down, I know it is worth it, because of my “why”. When I have first done the 7 levels deep questionnaire, I thought I know why I want what I want, but in the end, I found out that my reason is deeper and more complex than I thought.
During the next couple of weeks and months, I will share with you techniques, exercises, and tools that helped me during the years to be more positive, more balanced, and achieve my goals. I will share with you during these posts how these things helped me to become an office worker from night cleaning in London, to survive tough times, and stay the girl from the village who I always was and will be.
I really hope these posts will help you too and (Spit)Fire you up.
Oh, and please don’t forget: Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.😘
XOXO,
Krisz😘
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