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3 Steps to stop being a “people pleaser”

Hello,

One week ago I wrote about how I burnt out and started to “come back” as usual. I shared my 4 steps to begin the journey, however, if you do not find the root cause of your burnout, it will return. It can be millions of reasons why, but that’s something, you will have to find out for yourself (remember: sit down and just ask questions, and your brain will answer). What I wanted to talk about today is one of the most common reasons, what I saw in my inner circle…and that’s my friends: people pleasing. 

What is “people pleasing”? Well, did you ever experience someone asking you something, someone who is important in your life (can be a family member, your boss, a friend, doesn’t matter) and you really didn’t want to do that thing, but you did it anyway? That’s “people pleasing”. You know when you feel you need rest, but your mother calls you to go to the family dinner on Sunday, while your plan was just to be in your bed and watch Netflix. Or, when you do not want to dress up to go to the shop, but you do it anyway, because of what the people will say in the village. Or, you do not have time and capacity to do another task, but when someone asks you, you do it anyway, because you want them to like you. When you push yourself and your needs in front of another (not because you want to, only because you feel you have to), that is “people pleasing”. Or trying to be perfect.

(Let’s make something clear.  We don’t talk about the situations when your parents or partner ask you to take out the rubbish or clean your room/house or the cooking is your turn… that’s laziness and you know it, so I just want to make sure that this post will not be an excuse next time when they will ask you.😅)

Why do we do that? Why do we want to be perfect for everyone around us?  First thing first, we all do that from time to time, (someone more often than others), so don’t be hard on yourself. Based on my experience, based on my and other people’s research (listen to Mel Robbins’s podcast about it, or read her book, just to mention one person who is an expert on this subject) we all do it because of our fears. 

From what do we fear? They will not accept us, they will judge, their opinion, how they will see us, etc. We can call it how we want, but guess what? We all basically want to be loved. So we do everything to make sure that people will love/like us. We try to be perfect, we pretend that we are who we are not, just to make sure that we make others happy, so we can get their love. You are afraid to say NO because you will feel guilty that you put yourself in front of others. Because in our society there are 2 types of people: either selfish or people pleaser. No middle way. You want to make sure that everyone gets what they want around you, so they are happy and they love you. Let me tell you something. This is absolutely my experience. BULLSHIT! If someone loves you, will love you even if you say no sometimes. These people will love you no matter what and the funny part is that they want you to be happy just as much as you do want them to be happy. So if you do what they ask but in the meantime, you are exhausted, anxious, and depressed, they will not be happy, because they cannot see the happiness in your eyes. 

I read this, heard this, and watched this so many times and in so many places, but for me, this was one of the most important lessons I have learned in my life: If you are not happy, you are not able to make others happy. First, you have to be happy, so you have happiness in your heart and you can give it to others. You cannot give something that you don’t have. Do you want your kids, family, your partner, your friends, your boss, your colleagues, and your neighbors to be happy? Be happy first and they will be happy because you are happy and if you are happy you are able to give love. It will not work in the opposite way. Your “love tank” needs to be full first.

Okay, I know now so many of you say “yes, but in this case, we will be selfish”. Yes, you have to be a bit. But my opinion of taking care of ourselves until we do not hurt others is just self-care. You have to take care of yourself and love yourself to be able to live and give it to others, so if you don’t make any damage to others, is it really selfishness or is it self-care? You see, huge difference.

Okay, so how do we stop to be a “people pleaser”, but not become selfish? I have my 3 “exercises” I usually do (but as you see, I burnt out too, so sometimes I forget to use these things, and that’s okay. We are human and we are not and don’t have to be perfect- we can’t).

  1. Questions. Ask yourself questions. “Do I really want this? Is it really good for me? Am I lazy or it is legit why I don’t want XYZ? What can I do today to make me happier? What is important to me? Do I hurt anyone, if I don’t XYZ?”- You will feel it. Your brain will start to search for the answers and you will feel and know the right answers for you.
  2. Say NO! You can, you should and you are allowed to say NO. I know this is hard sometimes and you feel the guilt, but you must. I don’t say to start an argument and shout. No! Just tell to the person how you feel. In the beginning, when you start to create your boundaries, people will test you. Life will test you. Sometimes you would say yes, just to avoid the conflict and let yourself be, but if you do it, you will feel tired again and you can start everything from the beginning. You will learn to love yourself if you can hold your boundaries. (FYI: The people who love you, will understand and continue to love you. But it will be hard because some of the people who do not love you enough will be left from your life.)
  3. Do something that makes you happy every day. Don’t care about what others would say, or how stupid it sounds, just do it. Something, anything. Doesn’t matter just makes you smile. Be silly, be crazy, and be yourself. (I know it is hard because people want you to be yourself, but “please not that much”. It will be a different post for sure.)

At the end of the day, the most important person in your life should be you, because when you are in your bed, you are alone with yourself (even if someone sleeping next to you). If you are not happy, do you really FEEL happiness about the fact that you made everyone else happy? Be honest with yourself.

Well, I hope it helps guys. I am with you and we stepping together to get back our (Spit)fire. 😘

Don’t forget: Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.

XOXO,

Krisz😘

P.S.: (This post is based on my experiences and what I see around me, but please know I don’t think it is the TRUTH, every one of us is different. May what makes sense to me, it will not make any sense to you.)

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4 Easy steps to come back

Hello, hello

I know, I haven’t posted for a while. I am sorry, but I had to have a break from everything and everyone. I spent the holidays with my family and it was absolutely lovely. But since I came back to London, my life became so crazy. No lights, dark days, and lots of work. I realized that I burned out.

In the past months, I have just done my work, came home, eaten, and slept. I have done nothing. I was so tired, sleepy, and grumpy. I turned on the survivor mode. My energy level went down. So I had to turn it off. I know everyone is surprised and trust me, I was too.

I am a hurricane. I was and still am, a very energetic, organized, enthusiastic, positive, and absolutely hyperactive woman. So it hit me so hard that I don’t have energy, I didn’t want to do anything, just sleep. I thought something is wrong with me and I had no idea how can I come back again and be myself. I know it sounds weird, but I love to be a hurricane, with millions of plans, and tasks, and never sit down and be calm. It took me so long to accept that I am like this and that this is normal because this is me. Also, it was so hard to accept that from time to time we all burnt out. This is normal too. 

Well, you know me now, so you know that I am not a patient person. I get what I want because I will never rest until I get it. So the past months were suffering because I knew I want to be myself again, but I did not have the energy. Guess what? It is normal too.

I thought it is important to tell you that sometimes we all need to have rest. Slow down and just be. It is normal that we are not positive all the time. It is normal to be grumpy, negative, and tired. We need to give time to ourselves. Need time to feel these things too, because that’s the only way to rise again, to get back our energy level and go again. You are not less positive, you are a human. 

I am sure I told you this, but to be positive doesn’t mean that we always smile, happy and three meters above the clouds. It doesn’t mean that we don’t have bad days, we cannot be tired and have enough of the whole world. It doesn’t mean that sometimes we don’t give a shit and just f@ck for the fairytales. Life is a journey, with ups and downs. If we do not have the downs, we cannot appreciate the ups. Simply because we don’t know the difference. To experience and fully live the good, we have to get the inconveniences too. 

What made me realize this, how I stand up again, and why now? Funny. I think this week was the worst. On Wednesday, I went to the office and I felt so sleepy. Literally, I could sleep while I was standing. And it hit me on my face… my friend told me that something is really wrong with me because I am not complaining. F@CK! There it was. Just hit me. I have done nothing since I came back from my holiday, just complaining and feeling sorry for myself. 

How did I get back to my normal? I didn’t…at least not yet. Life is not like this. One day you’re down then the other day, you kick your ass and you’re back in the clouds. That’s bullshit. I am not a hypocrite, I thought that it should work like this. I had to realize that it is a process. It took me months to be this down emotionally, so it will take me some time to get back on track. 

BUT, this is a positive blog, so I will share with you how I started. (This is not the first time in my life when I am totally down, so I have my method for this situation.)

  1. Accept. This is the first and the hardest step, but the most important as well. You have to swallow all your pride (trust me, I am one of the most stubborn people ever, so I know how hard it is) and accept that something is wrong and that’s okay.
  2. Sit down. Take time to sit down and find out what is wrong. If you want to solve a problem, first you have to identify the actual problem. It can be more than one. Just find out. Identify the problem(s). 
  3. Plan. Don’t need to be a big plan and please give Life (God/Universe/ Mother Earth, etc.) a chance to give better. But have a plan. That will be a guide. Needs to be written. You should have a “deadline”(realistic and it can be flexible) too. Break it down for days, weeks, years, etc. (What is not written is not real. If you write down your dreams, breaking them down, they will be goals and most likely you can achieve them.)
  4. Do the first step. As I said you cannot back to 100% from -100% in one day, so just find out what you can do NOW. It is important that you have to do something immediately. (Simple psychology. Lots of studies prove that immediate action is a brain hack that helps you feel small success as you have done something to be better, but does not overwhelm and scare you, so you most likely continue.) Work for it every day.

Step by step. Just be patient with yourself. And don’t forget, it is okay. So kick your ass, get the spark from your (Spit)fire, and just do it! 😘

Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.

XOXO,

Krisz😘

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Santa is coming tonight

Hello, hello…

…or should I say Hohohohoooo?! 🎅

I know some of you are just looking at the title and have no idea what I am talking about because today is only the 5th of December. Let me explain to you and I promise until we finish here you will go and clean your boots (okay, sneakers will work too 😉). Okay, now, I am sure you lost (except if you are from Hungary).

So I know most of the world celebrates Christmas and Santa brings presents on the 25th of December…well not in Hungary. Don’t worry, we have Christmas and we get presents too (in my family we open the presents on Christmas eve), but in Hungary Jesus brings the presents and the Christmas tree too on Christmas eve (yes, we do not decorate the Christmas tree until the 24th of December’s afternoon)… so now you wonder, what we do with Santa?!

Well, we do nothing with him, but he brings us presents on the 6th of December night. I do not wish to explain the whole history of this tradition, because is more religious and I do not want to mix this here, but I can explain the actual tradition. 

So in Hungary (and some of the other European countries too) at this time, the kids are cleaning their boots and preparing them for the night. On the 5th of December evening, we had to clean our boots and leave them in the window before we get ready for bed. We had to make sure that they are nice and shiny and left them in the windows to make sure that Santa easily can find them During this magical night Santa picks up his sleigh and all his reindeer (we are not that weirdo, we call them on the same name the same as the rest of the world does) and deliver the presents to the kids. Fill up the boots with lots of nice things. Nowadays the kids get maybe some small toys too, but the original tradition is that Santa only brings sweets and chocolates (in my grandparents’ childhood was a bit different, they had fruits, sweets, and nuts)…lots of chocolates. During this time of the year, you can buy small packs full of different kinds of sweets or you can make them your own (the only must-have is the Santa figure) or just leave the goodies as it is in the footwear. But one thing is sure, everyone gets something…

…and here you can ask “what about the bad kids”. Well, the bad kids don’t get anything or they only get “sorghum” (I am not sure you have a proper word for this thing, so you can see a picture of it below). Actually, still, today parents threaten their kids during the year (or should I say blackmailing?) with the fact that if they do not behave or be nice, Santa will not give them anything or they will get only a big bounce of sorghum. (Let’s make something clear, I have it sometimes, but because I was a bad kid… I was always cheeky. Just for clarity.😋)

The week of the 6th of December Santa goes to schools, kindergartens, and nurseries (even into the Library in Hobol, search for it!) and brings small presents and chocolates to the kids (szaloncukor, it is a traditional Hungarian bonbon only for Christmas). The kids decorate the houses, and the institutes, and sing songs to Santa when he arrives.

As a sweet tooth, this is one of my favorite traditions. And the answer is YES, I cleaned my boots already. 😉

So have fun, clean your boots and if you were good enough during this year, maybe you will find something in your footwear tomorrow morning.😘

Love you guys and Happy Santa day for tomorrow!🎅

XOXO,

Krisz😘

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Expectations

Hello everyone,

I hope you are relaxing and starting to be excited about Christmas (ps.: I still love all Griches too, no discriminations here).

I have a lot going on in my life nowadays and I just started to wonder why I do all my relaxing stuff and still, sometimes I feel down and a bit sad. (Nothing wrong with it, because no one is always happy and all over the moon, but still I didn’t understand what is happening.) This time of the year is my favorite. The preparation for Christmas, the lights, the smells, the decorations, the waiting time, the activities and London looks like a big Wonder Land. So I started to feel weird, why I was not happy and excited as usual… and then it hit me on my face. Expectations.

I had a look around me and inside me and then I realized we all expect something from everyone and everything. All our life is about expectations. 

The saying is true: nothing is for free. Even for love, we expect to return some love and if we do not get it we seek it and beg for it (that’s another story). We expect our parents to love us, and our friends to check on us sometimes. We want our colleagues and bosses to appreciate our work, also we wish the cashier will be nice in the shop, and the product we bought will be perfect for the price we paid for it. We have expectations from women and men as a society. We expect leaders to look and behave in a certain way. We want our favorite movie star to be always perfect and act kind. We wait for our partner to remember our birthdays, anniversaries, and all occasions.  And the list just goes on and on. We are fighting and argue with each other because we wish people around us to be how we imagine them they should be. The worst is about expectations that we think we should get some reward for the effort we make to be someone who we think we should be to get the reward.

Don’t get me wrong, I am one of the luckiest people ever, because I have got lots of love and appreciation in my life, but still I am not an exception. 

So I started to list what I am expecting and most importantly from who. Yes, there are lots of people I interact with on a daily basis, so I had to let go of what and how I wish them to deal with me. People are different and that makes life wonderful. What made me surprise the most that I have so strong imagination for how people should act who are my closest ones. If someone knows me, know that I do not trust that many people, but if I do, I would do everything (literally everything) for, and to them. So that’s why surprised me when I felt a certain way for the people I love. I had to accept that even my loved ones are not perfect and they have every right to live their life as it is the best for them. Even my parents, my friends, and my family. Everyone has the right to choose what is best for them.

The other hit on my face was an even bigger slap. I am not just expecting people, products, and situations to be in a certain way… I have the biggest expectations about myself. Even when I feel down, my first thought was that why I do not feel a certain way, my feelings shouldn’t be like this. Should or shouldn’t. I never liked these two words because I felt the pressure that people want me to be someone who I am not, and I am not enough good. And yet, after 33 years I realized that actually, I am the one who built up those expectations. No one wants me to be perfect, on top all the time, happy, or million other things. 

What I realized is that because of our expectations and the way we see our life “should be” make us unhappy and do not realize the good things around us. Do not need to be big things…or actually, everything is a big thing that makes us happy, grateful, lucky, loved, etc. I don’t say that we cannot do our best, we must try to do it, but be aware of our limitations. It is totally fine not to be happy or feel a bit sad about things. 

Perfect doesn’t exist guys. Perfect for me exist, but perfect me?! Never. We all are human and like this, we are imperfectly perfect. All of us. Just the way we are. I believe that we are always at the right time, in the right place with the right people. May we not agree and cannot see it yet, but at the moment it is the best and it is how it “should be”. Don’t get me wrong, I still learning to let go of my expectations and just simply be happy with what I have gotten every day from life, from the people around me.

One last thought before I leave you to just relax, as it is still November (yes, even if it is the last evening of it). Letting go of your expectations does not mean you have to let go of your wishes. Just simply communicate with the people around you. Nothing wrong with it if you tell people what you want or how you want them to deal with you. No one is a mind reader, so you must tell people what is good for you (of course in a nice way), what makes you feel appreciated, loved, and not taken for granted.

I heard a very true saying from one of my kindest friends: “Be the most selfish person ever and do not let go a little from it, but make sure you do not hurt anyone around you! This calls balance!”

I wish you a really nice evening and time to prepare for the holidays. I am back soon with some Christmas traditions cheer up!!!! 😃

XOXO,

Krisz😘

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The Queen 👑

This is a bit unusual post from me and sorry if someone doesn’t really care about it, but I wish to tell what I see and how I think about the current situation.
As you know, I live in London and I’m sure everyone knows that The Queen is dead. Why do I want to talk about this? How is it affecting me? What does it look like to live in London these days? What do foreign people think about this?
Well, I never was a “huge fan” of the Royal Family, but I never had a problem with them either. They are a huge part of the community, the history and the everyday life of the UK. The whole country built up to this monarchy. Some people are proud of them, some hate them, but one thing is sure, everyone has feelings about the Royals. I heard people say that they just take their money and do nothing…well true and false. The people are paying with their lives, but they are a part of this country’s history. My opinion, if we do not give this money to them, this money will go to someone else’s pocket…at least like this we sponsor history.
And the Queen’s death is history. I’m 33 years old and I have never lived in a World where England doesn’t have a Queen and that Queen wasn’t Elizabeth II. So when I heard the news, I felt sad and shocked. I liked and some ways I adored that woman. She was funny, kind and had an amazing humor. She was a bit like everyone’s grandmother. But she was so powerful, elegant and everyone respected her for her service and her huge heart. I’m sad. Even though I have never met her, she is on our money, buildings, transport, she is in everyone’s life in the UK. An era has ended on Thursday, 8th September 2022.
She has been reigning for 70 years. She has done many things during these years, you can read them everywhere. Her elegance and still being a human made me respect her, not those amazing things. Yes, sure she made mistakes as everyone else. Even if she was The Queen, she was a human being. He Majestic was born in a different world, she had been through so many things and many more changes, but she could stay as a human. She wasn’t just the Queen of the UK. If you ask people around the world, they may not know who their own prime minister is, but everyone knows who Queen Elizabeth II is. Funny story, but I remember when I was a kid (around 5-6), I heard in the news about another royal family. I was shocked and totally confused… I said to my Mom “How is it possible that there is another Queen in the World? I thought The Queen is (sorry, I was a kid) that old lady called Elizabeth?!”. So yes, she wasn’t just the UK’s Queen.
How is London now? Quiet. You can feel the sorrow in the city. People are living their lives, they are in pubs, but those pubs are much quieter than usual. The streets are less busy. You can feel the sadness and the shock everywhere. I have never seen this quiet weekend since I moved here.
As I said, an era ended on Thursday. I hope she will rest in peace.

Thank you for listening guys.

XOXO,

Krisz ♥️

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Hungary vs Italy: The wedding competition – part 2😉

Hello Everyone and welcome back!

I know, I know, I am always late with the posts and I am so sorry, but I am a very busy woman (I must live my life, so I can deliver new stories, once I put my ass down and finally write them). But now I am back and as I promised, I will let you know how it was at the Italian wedding.

Before I start, I would like to dedicate this post to the couple, my dear friends and say Thank you that I can be there and you shared your happiness with me, but most importantly Thank you for being such amazing friends and part of my family. I love you to the Moon and back guys!❤

So let’s get the party started!

In Italy they will skip the coming and going part between the 2 houses, but the groom’s family and friends are gathered in his house and the bride’s side of the guest in her family house.

By the way, in Italy the groom cannot see the bride until the church doors open… trust me, I am one of the “cold hearted woman” and I do not get cry so easily, but when the doors was open and I saw my best friend as real Princess (btw she is always like a Princess and she never believe me)… well though Krisztina started to cry. It was worth everything to see her and her husband’s happiness on that day.

 As I mentioned in my previous post in Italy the couple can do the government and the church wedding in the church, so both are placed in a very nice church in Udine. The guest arrived and everyone was waiting outside until the very last moment (when the bride arrived) in front of the church. Once the bride’s car arrived (and before obviously she came out of it), everyone just went inside the church and had their seat. (My friends created a kind of booklet with the ceremony, so we could follow the ceremony. If you know Italian, but that does not matter.) Previously I told you, I understand a bit of Italian and the ceremony was really nice and the priest was such a cool and funny guy. After the ceremony ended, it was rice, bubbles, flowers, and everything you can imagine. (This is similar in Hungary too.) Everyone had a chance to take pictures with the couple  or of them. 

When the ceremony/ceremonies over the real party has started. As I said in my previous post, both countries’ weddings continue in the same way… “GO TO EAT!”🤣Well in Italy we have been in a really nice castle on the top of a hill… trust me (now you can be jealous, all of you) the view was absolutely breathtaking. I attached some pictures for you guys, but these are nothing compared to being there… If you don’t feel that finally you are alive in that place…well you will never feel it anywhere else. The hills, the nature, the whole milieu…It was such an experience.

Back to the wedding, both countries love the welcome drinks part, but in Hungary we prefer the alcoholic, especially spirits… okay, okay, I am not trying to market better, Pálinka. 😀In Italy they are more sophisticated, so different kinds of wines, lemonade (most amazing I have ever tasted in my life- sorry Mum),  and water with ice, so you can cool down a bit in the 40 degrees. (It took place on the front garden of the castle and trust me the view was absolutely “disgusting”) The couple arrived with in a very nice old timer car and that’s another different point, because they just stopped and let everyone take pictures of them or with them, while in Hungary you do it only after the wedding ceremony.

And finally we are on the food part! I know, I started to get hungry too. But in the traditional Hungarian wedding everyone sits around the tables and starts the dinner, in Italy first you have a huge buffett…I don’t even try to write you down all the food was served there and I don’t think that everyone ever described a word how delicious it was!!!!! (This kind of “dinner” started to take place in Hungarian weddings too, but as I said this kind of thing really depends on  the couple.) But seriously guys… you have no idea how much food is there!!!!! (Funniest thing that my best friend- THE WIFE- asked me how the food was and was it enough?????? Are you kidding me??? Have you seriously asked that question????😮🙄🤣) You know, what… I think the pictures will say everything… and that was only the buffet. The couple was the first to eat and when they had picked up their preferences, the rest of us started to have “something”.

After everyone finished with the buffet the couple took pictures with everyone on the top of the hill, behind a very nice view. They made sure they have pictures with all the family and friends and also some just the two of them.

When you think you are full with all the best Italian stuff and had a walk around the place, made your picture with the couple, discovered the gardens, with flower swings, gates, (yes, you read it correctly, a Flower Swing!) swimming pool, woods and everything else you can not even imagine, someone just says that the dinner is about to start…WTF???? Really?? I have just eaten a whole pig with every kind of cheese, vegetable, sausages, the most amazing bread I have ever tasted and I was much more rolled down the hill than walking, now we just “start the dinner”!!! Don’t laugh guys, it was so serious. 😅Not just a bit of food… nooooo… 5 course menu…5!!!

Well, I have attached the picture of the menu, so you can have a look at it…don’t even bother myself to write it down…no.

During the dinner, between the courses the couple walked around, played the shoe game, which I think I have mentioned in the Hungarian wedding, because that is similar and you were allowed to take pictures of yourself which ended up in a photo album as a memory for the couple. 

At this point I would like to say how lovely, nice, kind and friendly the Italian nation is. My friends created an “English table”, so me and my best friend sat at the table where everyone spoke English too and they were lovely. I have not felt for a moment that I have not belonged there. Even though it was clear that some of them have known each other for a long time, they welcomed us as they have known us for so long. It was another amazing experience to meet with those lovely people.

Once we “survived” (no, not finished, survived) the dinner, guess what was waiting for us outside in the garden????? I know you can get this.😅 YES, more food!!!!!!!!🤣 Fruits, cakes, every kind of sweets and…and…a CHOCOLATE FONDUE… I think that was the point where I just put my hands up and said: “I will die by eating, but at least in the most beautiful place I have ever been!” By the way, that was the “rest time” before the party started and 3 people brought out the Wedding Cake!!!!!🤣 I love Italian people, I do! They know how to enjoy life (or at least how to eat without dying) and I think the rest of the World should learn from them this mentality!

It was a lovely cake cutting ceremony with fireworks and Ed Sheran’s Perfect song… yes, I cried there too…and what?!😅 Pictures say it better than me, how lovely it was.

After that started the dance. Of course the couple opened it and after their dance, everyone started to enjoy the night. The bar was open, the people were happy and all went absolutely perfect. Italian weddings do not continue until the morning and I was really happy about it, because it was a long day before (that’s another story), but in the meantime I wish I could be there forever…in that place, with those people and just feel the happiness that was there… to see and feel the pure love, gratitude, joy and all the positive energy in the World. 

Before we left my friends surprised us with the “Thank you gift”, which was a bottle of the local wine which was made for that castle specifically and a bit of local sweets, but the surprise wasn’t those things… I knew from the beginning that they are lovely people and I will do anything to keep them as friends forever…but they have even thought about our families and sent them gifts too.

Well it was one of the most amazing weddings I have ever been to and not only because of the fact that it was in one of the most beautiful places, not because it was in Italy, which is one of my favorite places on Earth…nooo… because I saw my friend’s happiness. I love you guys so much and I wish you all the best. I wish all your dreams will come true and be as happy as you have been on that day for the rest of your life.💞

XOXO,

Krisz💞