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Presents= Love (?)

As we still have a couple of weeks until Christmas, and I am sure some of you have a similar relationship with Christmas shopping than I do, I think we should talk about it. 

So, I am a perfectionist, I have plans and a “to-do list” for even a “to-do list”, but I am really bad at Christmas gifts. Every single year around September I swear that this year I will start buying the gifts on time and not at the last minute… guess what? Never happened… I know…that’s bad…well, I am not perfect and I never want to be (way too boring) 😉

So I started to think about what to buy for my family and friends, but I was always stuck. I was so worried previously. The point was that: do presents are equal to love? If I buy what they like or want, do they love me more, and if I f@ck up and they get something that they do not like, they will love me less? Is that how the world works? Or even should I be scared that my family and friends will not love me if I do not buy the “best present ever” for them? Can you really buy love with money?

First things first, I am not scared at all, I have made a kind of “system” for myself. This is a material world, so everyone gets a present, but I also try to give them the things that really show them that I love them. How can I do that? 🙂 Sooooo easy and soooo not. 🙂

A couple of years ago I have read a book called Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I think that book helped me a lot and changed so many things around me and started to understand the behavior of my environment. 

You know when you really want something (time, gift, someone understands you, etc.), but you do not understand why your environment doesn’t get it? When you have an opinion of love, friendship, relationship, how those things should work, etc., but someone acts the totally opposite way and you do not understand why that person is so “different” and why doesn’t get that he/she makes it “wrong”. 

Well, my friends, I will tell you a secret… they speak a different love language than what you speak. I do not want to talk about the Love Languages, because I think everyone should read the book and even we should teach to the kids in the schools because that could help them more than quantum physics (all do respect for quantum physics and all the other subjects in school) so basically, I just write the name of them.

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Physical Touch
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Acts of Service

So, how do I sort out my Christmas gifts, and what does it do with the Languages? So easy: you need to find out who speaks which language, study to speak on it and then all done…okay, that’s not so easy, but worth it. 🙂

The fact is that for someone the presents are really equal to love and that’s totally okay like this. Some other people need our time, hugs, acknowledgment, favor, and that’s okay too. Nice the phrases that “give love instead of gifts”, but if you have someone around you whose love language is “receiving gifts”, they will not understand why you did not buy some presents for them and may they feel you do not love them. I buy gifts for everyone and I also try to “speak with them in their love language”. I have a couple of them who needs time together, so I try to make time for them. Some around me need to get confirmation, so I try to give them. And the list goes on and on and on. The point is that first you must listen to them and find out how they like to experience love and give it to them in that way. So that’s it. 🙂

To me, you are all equal and I love you no matter what language you speak or where do you come from. And really important that no matter how you like to experience Love, you are not bad or weird, you are perfect Spitfires as it is. 🙂

Have a good Christmas present hunting Spitfires. 😉

XOXO

Miss Spitfire

P.S.: Gary Chapman- Five Love Languages could be a good Christmas gift (you are welcome). 😉

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Christmas miracles

It is absolutely Christmas time now. This is one of my most favorite times of the year. (Okay after summer, but come on, who doesn’t like the sunshine and the warm weather?!) To understand why I chose the Christmas miracles title for this post, we need to go back a bit and you need to know a bit more about me.

Christmas was always my favorite season and I was always so excited about it. As I mentioned in my previous post, I am not from the US. I am from a really small country in Europe, but I have been living in the UK for almost a decade now. And my first Christmas miracle started with this move.

I decided to move to the UK and search for some adventures in the middle of November almost 10 years ago. My family is the best ever in the Word and I have always got everything from them, even if they were a really poor family. So I had no money, a huge debt, and a decision to move abroad. I had no idea how I would manage this, I only knew I would move in January no matter what. I had no idea, but at that time I used for the first in my life my “I don’t give a sh@t pills” (most of the people call creation, attraction, or realise, doesn’t matter what you call). I realized this only a couple of years later when I started to really deal with motivation and study that.

I have read about some positive thinking and how to create the Word you really want, but that was just the beginning of my journey.

I only had a strong decision, but no money or financial support. Guess what? Once you have the strongest decision and instincts in your life the “hows” will sort out themselves. I have got luggage as a leaving gift from my previous company. I have got a bonus which I never got previously. I have been paid for a job that I have done a year earlier and I never thought that I would ever be paid for it. I was supposed to have some discounts that year, but it was a huge mistake, so they paid for me fully in cash.  

And the list goes on and on and on.

Most people (including even me) make the mistakes that start thinking about the “hows” and don’t let the Universe/Word/God/Mother Earth/Themselves (call it how you like it) to deliver them the solutions, the ways. 

Faith is very important in our lives and to believe in ourselves, about the things that we truly desire. That’s how strong are the “Christmas miracles”, how strong we are. Most of the people said I am crazy and so many times in my life I heard that “this is impossible” on every occasion. Trust me, if you really want something you can get it…anything…no limits. Just need to reach the point to “Let it go” (even if sometimes “I mad ad Disney”, the old Walt had some good thoughts), take your “I don’t give a sh@t pills” or just “release it”. 

Especially at Christmas time. People most likely believe in miracles at this time of the year.  Something about the Christmas spirit… especially if you have some Spitfire to fuel it too. 😉

So be brave, strong and believe that especially at Christmas time everything is possible. 😉

XOXO

Miss Spitfire

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Thanks Giving…

Dear Spitfires,

This is a very special day for me. Not because I am from the US and I celebrate Thanks Giving. No. This is a special day for me because I finally made this website alive and I start my journey with you. This blog is one of my dreams a long time ago. I had a lot of fear and I didn’t believe in myself and the fact that a small blog post can help (even if you don’t know me). And that’s why this blog came alive… to help. I share my stories and I do not care how many people will read this, or what is the people’s opinion of it. I just hope I can help with my experiences, thoughts, opinions.

So why “Thanks Giving”? 🙂 Because I would like to thank the people who believed in me, who cheered for me, who supported me and be on my site even if I was the biggest B@ch ever! I am really grateful to everyone around me and I think this is one of the most important things I wish to share with you is to appreciate the people around you. I know it is cliche but they are the most important in our life. I am such a lucky person because I have a wonderful family and amazing friends whose always next to me.

Also, I am grateful because I learned a lot during the years and I have everything important in my life. Of course, I wish for more like everyone does and I am working for those things, but I am absolutely satisfied with the life I have at the moment.

So Thank you so much to all of my old and new friends, family, and everyone who read these words. I really love you guys. See you next time (I promise not all my posts will be this cheesy. 🙂 )

XOXO

Miss Spitfire