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Moved On!

Hello Guys,

I promised videos and constant posting, and I haven’t done it… I am sorry, but I was busy living my life. (I also know this is a perfect excuse, but this happened.) And what is “this”? Well, I’ll let you know soon, but now I would like to say thank you to all of you for all the support I have gotten from you during the almost two years since I first started this blog. The Spirit of Spitfire blog will be two years old next month.🥳

So these happened in the past two months since my last post: Chaos, boxes, packaging, playing with space, cleaning, fish and chips, flying, meeting new people, having fun with old ones and lots of “aunty duty”. And these are only a few of them. 

My best advice if you moving across countries is that: play so much Tetris (if you don’t know what it is, google it, my friend,  because you are not old enough to remember,  but it is the best help ever during the packing process.) Why? Because you will need to fill up all the gaps in every box you have. Trust me, I thought, it was easy to fill up boxes and wrap things. Also, I was so naive that I thought I could label boxes, such as “kitchen” and all the kitchen stuff would be in one box and it would be super easy to find everything. If you want to use all the spaces and want to be cost-effective here are my pieces of advice:

  1. Don’t book “move”, book only a few boxes or items each time, as the moving companies charge more if they have to do a “full move” and less if you send only items home(at least this is my experience regarding the move from London to Hungary).
  2. Please take time and find the best company and most of the time the most popular one, not the best.
  3. Use all the spaces in the boxes and write a label which contains everything that is in the box (even your slippers otherwise you will find yourself in my space… I still cannot find it, but I am sure I have it…maybe next to my cutleries?🤔)
  4. Pack your luggage a week before your flight, because I am 100% sure, you will find “a few” things that you want to take home with you, but remember, you have a weight limit. 🙄

After the last boxes left my home, I started to clean everything ( most of the time the landlords ask this and it is a criteria to have back your deposit, however my landlord didn’t ask this, but I cannot leave a dirty house behind me). I had to buy a new backpack and a small cabin bag too (obviously I needed bigger sizes that I already had… I know, I am a proper woman and still I forgot my fridge magnets. 😥) I felt so tired after everything and I thought I will sleep at least for a month. Thinking about everything during a move is so exhausting.

However the day came (27/08) and for the first time after almost eleven years, when my flight left the islands, I didn’t feel I left the “Alcatraz”, I felt I left my home… I left my life. And honestly, I did. Even if I came back to my home country, London and Great Britain were my home for almost eleven years… I knew I must do this and I must do it now, I have to open a new chapter.

I had to wait at the airport, but it was great, because after the 12 degrees, rain and windy summer in London, I felt 36 degrees, sunshine and blue sky… that’s how I arrived in Hungary. Also, I met nice people at the airport, so it was lovely to wait. 

I’ve been home for more than two weeks now and so far I like it. I know at the moment I’m still in my parents’ house and dressing in boxes, while I’m waiting to move to my flat at the Lake Balaton and I know it helps a lot that I can play with my nephew often, but so far I like it. Also, we celebrated during these two weeks, my nephew’s first birthday and brother’s thirtieth birthday doo and soon my Dad’s birthday is coming (yes, all the men in my family were born in September! 🤣) These are the things I would miss if I don’t make the decision to move on (and many more). I don’t have illusions, I am sure it will be hard times, but my depression and anxiety are much better since I’m around people who love me and whose I love too. 

So next time I will share with you an amazing event I’ve been to during the weekend, called Zrínyi Days. It will be a bit different post, as I would like to share with you a bit of the history of my home town and the reason why it is a big deal every year in our neighbourhood. Because London is amazing, Great Britain is beautiful and everyone knows how wonderful Budapest is, but trust me we have many more hidden gems in Hungary.

I hope you stay with me and together we SipFire up Hungary too. 😘 

Love you guys, and doesn’t matter where you are, never forget this: Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.

XOXO,

Krisz 😘

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Let’s move on

Hello Guys,

I hope you are doing well and enjoying the Summer. First I would like to apologise for the fact that I haven’t posted for a while now. I promise I have a very good reason and I will share it with you in this post.

I mentioned earlier that I´m working on a “big project”…well after more than 10 years living in London, I decided to relocate back to Hungary at least for a year. I know, it is shocking.😅 However, after soo many discussions with family, friends, and people I usually listen to, I decided that this is the best for me at the moment (or at least this is what I feel is the best). Lately, my friends are moved back to their countries, life in London changed a lot after the pandemic and my last visit at home during Christmas time woke me up. 

I usually wait for two things in the year and these two things are my holidays at home with my friends and family. I am the happiest when I am surrounded by them. I am laughing more, I feel better and I feel alive. 

My life in London became just a huge waiting time, while I have done nothing just worked, came home, eat, took a shower and sleep. Don’t get me wrong, I know it is my fault, but still, I was always tired and anxious. I became depressed, even though I had a nice career, and friends and I loved my life in London, I felt sad and lonely. Then I realised, I must change… drastically. First of course I had to start the change in my head and slowly turn my anxiety to hope, but still, I felt something is missing. I was wondering for years if I go back is just a run from my life, but after I moved into a nice place, I had a nice job and nice friends, I still felt this pull… the pull I haven’t felt in 10 years… the one that says, now you need to go and try. No matter what it will be, if you don’t try, you will regret it forever.

So I decided to relocate to Hungary. Why do I say relocate and not “move”? Simple brain hack. My anxiety and depression kicked in when one of my best friends at home ask me The Question: “So do you now move back to Hungary FOREVER?” Well… I started to sweat, I couldn´t bread, I felt I will die for sure… then I started to think… Do I want to move back forever? What if I change my mind? Do they all will be disappointed? Do I need to stay? What if I will change my mind? What if I will not like it after a year? All these questions just came into my mind at once… I felt tired, overwhelmed and to be honest, I just realised that I do not wish to move anywhere FOREVER. But I will buy a one-way ticket to Hungary and all my stuff will be transferred back… so technically, I will move back… and then I started to question everything (I know, again)… Is it really what I want or it is just an escape from my life? 

In the end, I figured out that nothing last FOREVER. I do not HAVE TO do anything. And my brain loves the idea that I go back for at least a year and once the year ends, I will see how I feel. I have a fully settled status in the UK, so in the next 5 years, I can come back anytime. My landlady and her family love me, so she said my flat will be available for me always, no matter who will live in it, they will take it out for me, and my workplace offered the same. 

So finally I decided to try. It wasn´t that quick and easy decision like it was 10 years ago to move here. First I started to think about it 4-5 years ago, we had soo many discussions with my friends here and there too about it, but in the end, I have two (a million others as well) very strong reasons why I do this: 

  1. As I mentioned in the previous post What is your “why”? My biggest why is my nephew. It was always hard to leave behind my friends’ kids, my parents, and my friends, but when I had to handle back my (at that time) 4 months old nephew…my heart was broken. I don´t want to be the aunty who just sending sh@ts and never there. I want to be there for him and never miss any birthdays or Easterns or any other occasions.
  2. At some point, everyone has to grow up and take responsibility. I can live in London and years just come and go and I will be in the same place in my life as I was last year or the years before. My life in London is an extended teenage life. I am having fun, I have money to buy sh@ts, and I have a job, but at the end of the day, most likely I am alone. Almost everyone important to me is in Hungary or will be.

I love my life in London and possibly I will come back or I will go and live somewhere else in the World, but at the moment I feel I need to go home for a bit and see how it will work (or not) for me after more than 10 years living in abroad. 

So I will continue to write blog posts, don´t worry, just not that often until the end of August. But I do not wish you to miss my moving fun, I want to include you guys, so I am working on making short videos and uploading them here, on YouTube and all the social media platforms, so please follow the Spitfires. Also, I am planning to do some mini-courses about mental health, motivation and positive life set later this year, so please just stay with me. During my videos, I also concur with my fears (my first fear is to upload my first video and see how you like me or don´t) and also give you some tips regarding moving out of the UK with a positive mindset of course. Obviously from the end of August, I will show you places in Hungary. I will move next to Hungary´s biggest lake, called Balaton, so I will have enough to share with you and we will continue our positive SpitFirey journey together, only my physical location will change.

Last, but not least, I would like to thank you for all your support here on the blog and on the social media platforms too in the last few years. Hopefully, these videos will help me not just keep my English, but get to know you guys better. 

I will bring the first video soon, but until that, please remember: Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.

XOXO,

Krisz😘

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When life gives you lemon…

aka 5 ingredients to start making the Life Lemonade.

Hello Guys,

I hope you are all well and having so much fun, now the weather is getting better and Summer is slowly, but surely coming. 😊 I know I haven’t posted again for a while, but so many things happened and I did not feel to come and write about them. This blog is basically a positive blog, but in the last few weeks, I had ups and downs. Don’t get me wrong, nothing terrible happened, but things did not go the way I planned them (aka life happened). I did not want to share these with you, but after yesterday, I thought maybe it can help someone. Maybe my feelings at the moment can be the one thing that makes it easier for others. I don’t know, but even if you just laugh a lot, it was worth it to write down.

I am not going into details, because it would be so long and I do not wish to share everything, but I will tell my thoughts and feelings.

Did you ever have the feeling that you planned everything, it was a perfect plan, you worked for it so hard, harder than ever, and you made what you possibly can and even more… and all of a sudden, the end was a huge NO from the Life? You gave all your heart, you had a plan, and you had a huge why, so just swallowed everything for months and months, because you were sure that if you do, you get what you want. You were the most positive person ever, you felt, you got this, and you put all your heart into it, and in the end… nothing…even if you know for 100% you deserved it. When life gives you that famous lemon.

Well, after all the ups and downs during the last couple of weeks, that’s what I felt yesterday. I worked for something so hard, I gave all my heart, and the answer was no.  I felt so down and I was pissed off. When I stopped for a second of my own “inner drama theater” and finally let the “drama queen” rest in me, I realized so many things… and that’s why I write this post to you.

  1.  I realized that I do not feel sorry about the thing I did not get… The only thing I was sorry for is myself because all my plans went down into the loo.
  2. I didn’t even want that particular thing… I just wanted the easiness which came with it.
  3. I am the one who did not appreciate myself. I have expectations. Remember when I wrote about these things? Well, I did not read and took the bits of advice I just gave it to you guys. (I should probably read more often than write. 😅)

I found out many more things, but I thought these are the most important. So the question is what do I do with these things? Don’t get me wrong I am still not positive and that’s okay. It will take time (so much time), but at least I started to get better. So here are my 5 steps to start making the Life Lemonade:

  1. I accepted that it is okay to feel peace of shit at the moment- Take the Lemons what Life offered. (And yes, the Bridget Jones’ diaries with vanilla ice cream are absolutely acceptable in this situation, so go for it!!!! 😉)
  2. I felt all the feelings- Cut and squeeze the Lemons.

I cried, I was angry, I shouted out loud, I vent out my feelings, etc. Doesn’t matter what, you have to feel it. No one can be positive always and especially not when you feel you wish to have a dragon that can solve the whole problem with a word (dracharys). If you try to be positive in these situations when you feel down, you force yourself and you make a huge resistance, which will cause you a much bigger problem later. Also, it would not be positivity, it would be stupidity. Seriously, to smile even if you are swimming in the deepest shit is the stupidest thing ever.

  1. I released the negative feelings (at least I started to release them).- Add them to water.

A million ways you can do it, you can sit down and meditate or write it on paper, sometimes it is enough just to cry, or you can go for a walk/run, exercise, etc. It absolutely depends on the person.

  1. Find the lesson.- Stir it up.

I did find the lesson in my situation. Because remember: “Everything in life is either a blessing or a lesson.” If it is painful… well friends, it will be a huge lesson. Sometimes just your body tries to tell you to slow down, sometimes you just have to be patient. In my situation, my lesson is to learn to love and appreciate myself. We first have to give ourselves what we wish to receive from others. And we cannot love and/or appreciate others if we do not have these feelings in us.

  1. Counting my blessings to start to feel better. – Add some sugar (even some mint) for a better taste…and slowly start to enjoy.

I don’t want or try to be positive. Just want to feel myself better, so slowly I can start to feel okay again and then good, great, and happy. I do not rush. But to start and count your blessings can help, because doesn’t matter how hard life is now for you and I am sure my situation is so far from the worst, you always have something to be grateful for. I have a lovely family and amazing friends, I live in a very nice area, I am healthy and everyone who counts is healthy in my life. I have food (amazing food) to eat every day, I have a job, and I have money, which I did not really have 10 and a half years ago. The list goes on and on. You can write as much as you wish, no minimum or maximum amount. I think the more is the better, because at the beginning you will not have the feeling, but with each thing, you will start to gain the feeling too.

(Of course, we all have different tastes, so feel free to try new things, and other exercises, and mix the steps, as you like it. In the end, it will be your Lemonade.😉)

I want you to remember something, if you did not get what you want you will get something much better. No matter what you wanted, a better thing is coming. Even if you cannot see it yet, as I cannot see how it will be better, we must believe that it wasn’t meant for us, because something much bigger is waiting. The lessons are preparing us for something greater.

So grab your lemons, squeeze them, add some extra ingredients, spice it up with some SpitFire, and slowly it will become a very delicious Lemonade

XOXO,

Krisz😘

(P.s.: Mom, friends I am fine, do not worry! 😅

One more thing, I will start a 21-day mindfulness challenge on Monday. Each day, I will share on Facebook and Instagram daily lessons (easy one or two steps story posts, each step will not take longer than 5 minutes to do), so if you wish to do it with me, follow the Spitfires on one or both of the social media platforms.)

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Do not stop

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Dear never greater than excitement

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Krisz 😘