Tag: beyourself

Hello Guys,

I know, I know, I didn’t write a word almost a month ago…I promise, as soon as I can, I will kick my own butt. Due to I assigned May to “Confidence”, I wanted to talk about my confidence (or sometimes, when I don’t have), how I lost it and how I built it up so many times…but something came in my mind that I couldn’t let it go and I think first we need to clear the air about this question. Once we know who we are, we can build up our confidence, opposite this will never work. But seriously, is this the right question or is it something else that we are searching for?

I had a lot of conversations about this with my friends and family. It seems that nowadays everyone wants to “find themself”. We are just searching for something that is actually US. 

Who am I? So many times we feel we are lost and have know idea who we are and what we really want in our life. And that’s okay. Noone need to punish themselves about this. This is a normal outcome of growing. We can grow by the changes and never by the routine. During those changes our personality changes a lot (even if we don’t want to or don’t even recognize that.)

In my opinion we are not just one “thing”. If you ask people who they are, mostly they will tell you their jobs. “ I am a doctor”- “I am a banker”-” I am a hairdresser”- “I am…” Really? Are we really our jobs? Or do we “do” something for the living? Do you see the difference?😉

Or when you ask a mother- “I am a mother.” Yes, you are…but you are not just a mother. She is also a daughter, a sister, a wife, a girlfriend, a friend, etc. Or obviously if it is a man, he can be a father, a brother, a friend, also he has a job, so he can be a banker, fisher, etc.

My favorite one is when actually the answer is based on our mood…”I am angry”- “I am mad”- “I am upset”- Seriously? Are you? Is this who you are? Or is this what you feel at the moment? And this is very important and very dangerous guys, because words have power…what you feel,who you say you are today will be the one tomorrow. Don’t get me wrong,when we say and feel “I am happy”-“I am amazing”- “I am excited”… These are all good “to be”s, and we should use these phrases so much more, but be careful with the negative pair of them.

I don’t know how you work guys, but usually “I am” at least 6 different people each day (and that was an easy day). My point is that this is one of the most complicated questions ever. The answer: It depends on the mood, the job, the place where you live, the people around you, the environment, ethnicity, etc. I am stubborn, moody, complicated,hysteria, a fighter,a woman, a sister, a friend. I am also clever, nice,kind, pretty, sexy, bitchy, lost, smooth, even the worst days I can be a dragon (dracharys) and able to burn it down everything around me.😅

Based on the conversations with people around me and on my own “searching myself journey” here is what I found out: the most important question is not “Who I am?” The most important is “Who I want to become?” My mentor and mostly my friend ( drop me a message if you want her contact, because she is a magician and helped me a lot everytime when  I had difficulties in my life) helped me a lot with this question and let me realize this.

I’m sure all of you heard this so many times, but it is so true: “who you think you are today, will be the person tomorrow.” So my conclusion is that we do not need to find ourselves. We are who we are and we are all what we think we are. Most importantly we should be happy, in harmony, accept the worst sides of us, because those are us too and find who we want to be. Once you find the answer for this question, you can work to become that person. 

How do you do that? How do you find the person you want to be? Just ask yourself everyday, every time until you find the answer. (Or at least that’s how I do.) And trust me, during your journey, your life this answer will always change and that’s fine too.

No matter what you should know that you are perfect (even when you are a dragon). 😉 You deserve to be loved and if someone says otherwise, just say: Dracharys! 😉

I love you all♥️

XOXO,

Miss Spitfire 😘

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