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Being in The Present

Hello Spitfires!!!! 🙂

I know I haven’t posted for a while, sorry guys, but I have been in the Present. What does it mean and why is it very important? I will let you know in this post. 

As I mentioned previously I am not from the UK, but I have lived here since 2013. So it means from time to time I am back to my country and visit my family and friends. I have been in my country and I spent the holidays there with my loved ones. I had such an amazing time. Lots of food, drinks, laughs, talks, games and all the fun you can imagine. But how does it explain why I was off writing? Well, I was in the Present.

Most people (including me) can lose easily to planning the future, organizing the next steps to achieve dreams, thinking of the next holidays, new challenges and trying to figure out what the Future will bring. Especially at the beginning of a new year. To plan ahead is very important and to make steps for the future is essential, but so many times we are just lost in the Future and we don’t recognise the amazing things happening around us. So we clearly are not in the Present.

When I am with my family and friends, I like to be really with them. Like to listen to them, see them and be there for them. Not just physically, but emotionally and give them all my attention. Maybe because I don’t spend that much time in my country, when I am there, I like to be lost in the landscape, the smalls, the sounds, study the nature and just feel it. I know it sounds so cheesy (especially from me), but this is the truth. It is very important to me to store every single moment when I am there. Even though I feel a bit guilty why I am not doing my usual yoga, run, exercises, meditation, and other “positive techniques” when I am at home, but this is normal, when you are on holiday, you do not follow your everyday life routine. It is impossible and unnecessary, because you do more for your positive attitude, if you are just enjoying your time when you are on holiday.

Even when I am back in my life, I try to discover new things and try to be in the Present as much as I can. It is hard to be in the Present in our everyday life. I assume just like me, you have a routine for everything. Wake up at the same time everyday. Go to your workplace (even if it is in the living room), have a daily routine, lunch break, close your laptop, go home, prepare dinner, etc.Really hard to be in the Present like that.

I have a little game that I am playing to stay in the Present during my everyday routine. Most of us use public transport. So when I am on the tube, bus, train, airport or every other crowded places (if you work from home you can do this when you are in the shop to do the grocery shopping or just during your daily walk), I give myself at least 5-10 minutes to have a look around me and asking the same question: “ What can I love/like here and now?” So easy, but it helps a lot to stay in the Present. Maybe you like someone’s hair, boots, jackets, the book they read, the phone, the bags, the attitude, the jewellery, anything. Funny and useful, because you are in the Present and focus on positive things.When you do this game obviously you cannot focus on 2 things at the same time, so you are not able to think about your future, job,dinner etc., because you are looking at something you like just right Now. Also it is good, because you are positive, you have positive vibes when you are focusing on something you like or love. 

The key is where you focus. Even if I feel worried about something or stressed, I stop for 5 minutes (yes, go to the loo, so no one can interrupt or say that you are just stopped. It is easier if you work from home for sure) and have a look at what I can like/love. If you cannot see anything (because you are in the loo and if you are not a loo liker, hard to find anything nice), just think about and list at least 5 things why/who you can be grateful for. 

For me it always works, BUT we are not the same and that’s normal. As I always say, question me, because I do not talk about facts, so I will never say that it is the best for you too. I think it is worth giving it a try.

During this year I have decided to share with you the exercises I do daily, weekly and monthly. I will let you know about how I became more positive and how I transformed from a very pessimistic person to a very optimistic one.

Stay with me, have a super time and enjoy this amazing Spitfires’ life I will try to show you!

XOXO,

Miss Spitfire

P.S.: You can ask any question, any time if you wish, just find me on Facebook, Instagram or here via comments. 🙂

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New Year’s resolutions

Is New Year really equal to the new me? Do we really change a bit each year beginning? Why do we need the new year’s resolutions? Do we need them or just a nice cliche? Really the number at the end of the date will change everything? What’s the reason for the resolutions?

I don’t know how you feel about the end of the year, and I know it seems like a big cliche, but I think every New Year brings a new chance for a new beginning. Of course it will be a new year and a new number at the end of the date, but I always feel this is a new beginning. Most of the people make new year’s resolutions and we all know not that much will still exist longer than February. The most common of course to lose weight, stop smoking, stop drinking, eat healthier, go to gym every day, etc. I have my own kind of tradition.

Before or on the last day of each year I make a list. I take out my last year list(s) and check what I have got, what I achieved and what is left. After that I think if I still would like to get those that are left from last year or not. If I still feel I really want those things, I write again to the new list.

Every year the list has some categories, such as relationships, money, career, family, travel, “me time”, personal growth, etc. the most important parts of my life on the paper each year. I write down everything I really wish to get in the next 12 months.

It is very funny and interesting how much our wishes can change during a year or how many things we can achieve. Usually 80% of the list ticked and the funny part is, the points are not ticked I never really wanted. 

This “exercise” is very good to realize our dreams, where we need to still work and see how much we changed. I have been doing this for 5-6 years now and usually I take out all my lists before I start to do the new one to see how much I have changed.

The key is that we should write down everything. Since I started to practice positive thinking, the first rule that I have learnt is that we need to write down everything that we wish to get. Why? Because, if you just talk and think about something most likely you will never take a step to get it. No evidence, so no one knows if we do not lift a finger to work for it, so no guilt either. Instead if you grab a paper and list everything, you will have physical evidence that you have something to work on, you cannot be lazy, you start to feel guilt and most likely you and start to take steps for it. Each time you read the list, your unconscious mind starts to work on the solutions to get each thing. Your mind realizes that you do not have those things, so need a “plan” or “way” to have them. This is just simple psychology. But this is another post’s subject. 🙂

So if you want to take steps for your next year or just want to have a bit of fun, grab a paper and list all your wishes. (Don’t forget, this is still the holiday season, so magic works stronger.- Just saying. 😉 ) 

I am sure one of the points will be this year on my list to continue to be with you and may even help you Spitfires. 🙂

Happy New Year to all of you and see you in 2022!!! 🙂

XOXO,

Miss Spitfire

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Presents= Love (?)

As we still have a couple of weeks until Christmas, and I am sure some of you have a similar relationship with Christmas shopping than I do, I think we should talk about it. 

So, I am a perfectionist, I have plans and a “to-do list” for even a “to-do list”, but I am really bad at Christmas gifts. Every single year around September I swear that this year I will start buying the gifts on time and not at the last minute… guess what? Never happened… I know…that’s bad…well, I am not perfect and I never want to be (way too boring) 😉

So I started to think about what to buy for my family and friends, but I was always stuck. I was so worried previously. The point was that: do presents are equal to love? If I buy what they like or want, do they love me more, and if I f@ck up and they get something that they do not like, they will love me less? Is that how the world works? Or even should I be scared that my family and friends will not love me if I do not buy the “best present ever” for them? Can you really buy love with money?

First things first, I am not scared at all, I have made a kind of “system” for myself. This is a material world, so everyone gets a present, but I also try to give them the things that really show them that I love them. How can I do that? 🙂 Sooooo easy and soooo not. 🙂

A couple of years ago I have read a book called Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. I think that book helped me a lot and changed so many things around me and started to understand the behavior of my environment. 

You know when you really want something (time, gift, someone understands you, etc.), but you do not understand why your environment doesn’t get it? When you have an opinion of love, friendship, relationship, how those things should work, etc., but someone acts the totally opposite way and you do not understand why that person is so “different” and why doesn’t get that he/she makes it “wrong”. 

Well, my friends, I will tell you a secret… they speak a different love language than what you speak. I do not want to talk about the Love Languages, because I think everyone should read the book and even we should teach to the kids in the schools because that could help them more than quantum physics (all do respect for quantum physics and all the other subjects in school) so basically, I just write the name of them.

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Physical Touch
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Acts of Service

So, how do I sort out my Christmas gifts, and what does it do with the Languages? So easy: you need to find out who speaks which language, study to speak on it and then all done…okay, that’s not so easy, but worth it. 🙂

The fact is that for someone the presents are really equal to love and that’s totally okay like this. Some other people need our time, hugs, acknowledgment, favor, and that’s okay too. Nice the phrases that “give love instead of gifts”, but if you have someone around you whose love language is “receiving gifts”, they will not understand why you did not buy some presents for them and may they feel you do not love them. I buy gifts for everyone and I also try to “speak with them in their love language”. I have a couple of them who needs time together, so I try to make time for them. Some around me need to get confirmation, so I try to give them. And the list goes on and on and on. The point is that first you must listen to them and find out how they like to experience love and give it to them in that way. So that’s it. 🙂

To me, you are all equal and I love you no matter what language you speak or where do you come from. And really important that no matter how you like to experience Love, you are not bad or weird, you are perfect Spitfires as it is. 🙂

Have a good Christmas present hunting Spitfires. 😉

XOXO

Miss Spitfire

P.S.: Gary Chapman- Five Love Languages could be a good Christmas gift (you are welcome). 😉

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Christmas miracles

It is absolutely Christmas time now. This is one of my most favorite times of the year. (Okay after summer, but come on, who doesn’t like the sunshine and the warm weather?!) To understand why I chose the Christmas miracles title for this post, we need to go back a bit and you need to know a bit more about me.

Christmas was always my favorite season and I was always so excited about it. As I mentioned in my previous post, I am not from the US. I am from a really small country in Europe, but I have been living in the UK for almost a decade now. And my first Christmas miracle started with this move.

I decided to move to the UK and search for some adventures in the middle of November almost 10 years ago. My family is the best ever in the Word and I have always got everything from them, even if they were a really poor family. So I had no money, a huge debt, and a decision to move abroad. I had no idea how I would manage this, I only knew I would move in January no matter what. I had no idea, but at that time I used for the first in my life my “I don’t give a sh@t pills” (most of the people call creation, attraction, or realise, doesn’t matter what you call). I realized this only a couple of years later when I started to really deal with motivation and study that.

I have read about some positive thinking and how to create the Word you really want, but that was just the beginning of my journey.

I only had a strong decision, but no money or financial support. Guess what? Once you have the strongest decision and instincts in your life the “hows” will sort out themselves. I have got luggage as a leaving gift from my previous company. I have got a bonus which I never got previously. I have been paid for a job that I have done a year earlier and I never thought that I would ever be paid for it. I was supposed to have some discounts that year, but it was a huge mistake, so they paid for me fully in cash.  

And the list goes on and on and on.

Most people (including even me) make the mistakes that start thinking about the “hows” and don’t let the Universe/Word/God/Mother Earth/Themselves (call it how you like it) to deliver them the solutions, the ways. 

Faith is very important in our lives and to believe in ourselves, about the things that we truly desire. That’s how strong are the “Christmas miracles”, how strong we are. Most of the people said I am crazy and so many times in my life I heard that “this is impossible” on every occasion. Trust me, if you really want something you can get it…anything…no limits. Just need to reach the point to “Let it go” (even if sometimes “I mad ad Disney”, the old Walt had some good thoughts), take your “I don’t give a sh@t pills” or just “release it”. 

Especially at Christmas time. People most likely believe in miracles at this time of the year.  Something about the Christmas spirit… especially if you have some Spitfire to fuel it too. 😉

So be brave, strong and believe that especially at Christmas time everything is possible. 😉

XOXO

Miss Spitfire