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Expectations

Post author By Kris Spitfire
Post date 2022.11.30.
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Hello everyone,

I hope you are relaxing and starting to be excited about Christmas (ps.: I still love all Griches too, no discriminations here).

I have a lot going on in my life nowadays and I just started to wonder why I do all my relaxing stuff and still, sometimes I feel down and a bit sad. (Nothing wrong with it, because no one is always happy and all over the moon, but still I didn’t understand what is happening.) This time of the year is my favorite. The preparation for Christmas, the lights, the smells, the decorations, the waiting time, the activities and London looks like a big Wonder Land. So I started to feel weird, why I was not happy and excited as usual… and then it hit me on my face. Expectations.

I had a look around me and inside me and then I realized we all expect something from everyone and everything. All our life is about expectations.

The saying is true: nothing is for free. Even for love, we expect to return some love and if we do not get it we seek it and beg for it (that’s another story). We expect our parents to love us, and our friends to check on us sometimes. We want our colleagues and bosses to appreciate our work, also we wish the cashier will be nice in the shop, and the product we bought will be perfect for the price we paid for it. We have expectations from women and men as a society. We expect leaders to look and behave in a certain way. We want our favorite movie star to be always perfect and act kind. We wait for our partner to remember our birthdays, anniversaries, and all occasions. And the list just goes on and on. We are fighting and argue with each other because we wish people around us to be how we imagine them they should be. The worst is about expectations that we think we should get some reward for the effort we make to be someone who we think we should be to get the reward.

Don’t get me wrong, I am one of the luckiest people ever, because I have got lots of love and appreciation in my life, but still I am not an exception.

So I started to list what I am expecting and most importantly from who. Yes, there are lots of people I interact with on a daily basis, so I had to let go of what and how I wish them to deal with me. People are different and that makes life wonderful. What made me surprise the most that I have so strong imagination for how people should act who are my closest ones. If someone knows me, know that I do not trust that many people, but if I do, I would do everything (literally everything) for, and to them. So that’s why surprised me when I felt a certain way for the people I love. I had to accept that even my loved ones are not perfect and they have every right to live their life as it is the best for them. Even my parents, my friends, and my family. Everyone has the right to choose what is best for them.

The other hit on my face was an even bigger slap. I am not just expecting people, products, and situations to be in a certain way… I have the biggest expectations about myself. Even when I feel down, my first thought was that why I do not feel a certain way, my feelings shouldn’t be like this. Should or shouldn’t. I never liked these two words because I felt the pressure that people want me to be someone who I am not, and I am not enough good. And yet, after 33 years I realized that actually, I am the one who built up those expectations. No one wants me to be perfect, on top all the time, happy, or million other things.

What I realized is that because of our expectations and the way we see our life “should be” make us unhappy and do not realize the good things around us. Do not need to be big things…or actually, everything is a big thing that makes us happy, grateful, lucky, loved, etc. I don’t say that we cannot do our best, we must try to do it, but be aware of our limitations. It is totally fine not to be happy or feel a bit sad about things.

Perfect doesn’t exist guys. Perfect for me exist, but perfect me?! Never. We all are human and like this, we are imperfectly perfect. All of us. Just the way we are. I believe that we are always at the right time, in the right place with the right people. May we not agree and cannot see it yet, but at the moment it is the best and it is how it “should be”. Don’t get me wrong, I still learning to let go of my expectations and just simply be happy with what I have gotten every day from life, from the people around me.

One last thought before I leave you to just relax, as it is still November (yes, even if it is the last evening of it). Letting go of your expectations does not mean you have to let go of your wishes. Just simply communicate with the people around you. Nothing wrong with it if you tell people what you want or how you want them to deal with you. No one is a mind reader, so you must tell people what is good for you (of course in a nice way), what makes you feel appreciated, loved, and not taken for granted.

I heard a very true saying from one of my kindest friends: “Be the most selfish person ever and do not let go a little from it, but make sure you do not hurt anyone around you! This calls balance!”

I wish you a really nice evening and time to prepare for the holidays. I am back soon with some Christmas traditions cheer up!!!! 😃

XOXO,

Krisz😘

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5 tips to SpitFire up your mornings

Post author By Kris Spitfire
Post date 2022.11.23.
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Hello Guys,

As I promised, November is about relaxing and preparing for the winter. I wish to help you to make ready for the crazy, busy holiday season, the end of the year, visiting family, having Christmas parties, and all the fun things that require a lot of energy from us. Yes, we must prepare our minds, body, and soul for all these. My philosophy is to do everything step by step. That’s the best way to set up and achieve our goals too.

All story starts at the beginning, and so do our days. The morning routine is very important because how you start your day will be the foundation of your whole day. Very important to set up our own, unique morning routine. I don’t believe in fixed recipes (it could explain my not always… let’s say like these “well-presented” cakes or foods🤔), so what works for me may not work for you and it is fine like this. We are all unique and that’s what makes life so wonderful.

Okay, let’s get into it. 😉

Set your alarm

Well, that sounds easy, but trust me, so many times, this is where everything will be decided. I use two alarms, with 10 minutes difference, because like this I have 10 minutes to think about the day ahead of me, visualize my goals, be grateful for my life, or just simply prepare my soul until I physically kick myself out of the bed. Another nice tip is from Mel Robbins and her 5-second rule, which is an amazing book and a more amazing technique to force yourself to do actions, in less than 5 seconds. The whole idea is that your alarm rings and you count back 5-4-3-2-1- GO! That’s it. No snooze or “please, just 5 more minutes, mama”. (I highly recommend her books and her podcast too, to get practical tips without sugarcoating. Also, you can use the 5-second rule before every kind of decision in your life.)

Coffee, coffee, coffee, and water

First things first, water. Water helps to wake up your body and of course after a nice (minimum) 8 hours of sleep you will be dehydrated, so you need it first. Someone just drinking a glass of water and that’s it. Someone is a tea or smoothie person. What works for you, Babe, no judgment here. But if you want to communicate with me and wish me to operate as a normal human being…well, better give me a coffee in the morning.

I love to do my coffee because that’s another opportunity for me to think about my day, organize my tasks in my head, and enjoy the wonder of a sunrise or everything that I want. My soya-cinnamon-honey cappuccino is a guarantee of a perfect start to the day.

Write in my journal

That part of my morning is important because that is the time, when I sit down, drink my coffee, and let myself relax, feel what I have to feel, let go what I have to let go and also summarize the previous day. Usually, I am writing about my feelings, prepare my goals, make lists, organize my tasks, create plans, or just simply write what’s in my head. Here are no right or wrong things, no judgment, simply just notify my thoughts and my feelings. Our brain is a very nice and complicated muscle. Like all other muscles, it can be trained. Your “brain push-ups” are your thoughts. When you write about your thoughts, you train your brain, because it cannot be focused on anything else, only what you are writing. If you think and feel positive during the morning, you most likely have a good and happy day. (After all, I allowed myself to turn on my internet, and check messages, emails, and social media, for a maximum of 5 minutes!)

Yoga (or any kind of exercise- just move your body)

And we arrived at the favorite part of my morning routine. I love yoga. I never thought it will be one of my favorite types of exercise, but it slowly became one. I do 15-30 minutes daily, depending on how much time I have left after writing. Usually, I use YouTube videos, but lately, I found out about the Boho Beautiful Yoga app and I love them. Juliana and Mark are a lovely couple and incredibly nice teachers and they have amazing yoga, pilates, and meditation videos, also they have a podcast, website, and YouTube channel. Also, they have some free programs which are so effective. Lately, I have done the 7 days Blissful Body Bootcamp series which was 15 minutes of yoga a day for 7 days… intense, and killer, but worth every minute.

The most import is that you do something for your body. Move a little bit. Do push-ups, lift weights, go for a run or a walk, dance in front of the mirror… doesn’t matter, just make sure you move a bit and check how you will feel. Movement creates endorphins as well as dopamine in your body, which are the “happiness hormones”. I think you get it now why it is important. 😉

Learn while you get ready

Usually, after I finished my daily yoga, I start to prepare myself for the day: get dressed, brush my teeth, make my hair, etc. As I am a proper woman, it takes so many times. (Okay, not that many… average…30 minutes…or maybe sometimes more…whatever🙄) So I have time to train my mind. That means I listen to podcasts (yes, it is a kind of brand-new morning routine as you know from my previous podcast). I love it. I love the fact to use my time to learn something new and I do not waste a minute of my morning. So effective and energizing, at least that it causes me.

So, folks, that’s how I relax and get ready for my day. It became important to me to take care of my soul, my mind, and my body. Not just because everyone is getting older (of course except me), but it feels so good and this routine gives me a nice and calm vibe to start the day. Of course, I do have bad days, lazy days, or even moods, but still, my mornings are always calm and balanced. I do not say that this is the best recipe for everyone. We are all different…some of you are owls and like to stay up until late, so you will not wake up at 5.30 am to do all of this. Or even someone who has more energy during the afternoon (it could be a good afternoon routine too) will prefer to do these things then. Also, all of these things can be done at different times of the day or actually more often each day. The most important that we all need to take care of our mind, body, and soul to feel better and be better people. 😉

I hope you have a relaxed and nice November and if you are as much a Christmas freak as I am… well…the holiday season officially started!!!!! 😁

XOXO

Krisz😘

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Podcast relax

Post author By Kris Spitfire
Post date 2022.11.02.
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Hello guys,

I hope you are doing well. I cannot believe it’s already November. One of my favorite months, because nature has amazing colors, everything is just slowing down and starting the preparation for the winter…or in my case for Christmas.

I have started this part of the blog where I will share my recommendations, favorites, and things which helped me during the years of my positive journey. And this post will be one of my many recommendations. Also, I recently wrote about the importance of slowing down, so I bought a tip for you on how to educate while you are just stepping back a bit from your crazy busy life. November will be all about slowing down and relaxing. I plan to bring some tips about how to be more relaxed. It will be a very exciting month, I promise.

So what I have realized is literally 24 hours is not enough for me (okay “fun fact” that I am capable of sleeping like, and as much as a baby, but I need at least 8 hours of sleep to be able to function) to do everything I wish and also like to do. I like to do so many different things, such as Zumba, dance, meditation, yoga, eat ( one of my favorites), sleep, sometimes cook or bake, read, learn, etc. So I had no idea how I fit into my busy schedule of self-development. My best friend said that he loves listening to podcasts and my first reaction was: “Dude, I have no time and even I don’t like to listen to one subject, I love listening to music, but not people talking.” Guess what he introduced me to Joe Rogan’s podcasts (okay, I am a huge fan of Scott Eastwood, so the interview with him) and my whole world changed. Let’s make it something clear, I do not like to listen to thematic podcasts because I am never really sure which subject is interesting to me, but I love to listen to totally different subjects. However, positivity, mindset, self-growth, and well-being will always interest me. Since that interview, I became a huge fan of podcasts because finally, I have “time to learn” most easily and quickly. I love learning new stuff, but the fact that my mind is just as hyperactive as my entire self… Well, the classroom learning is just simply freaking me out. Staying over the books, and memories for hours, and the next day after the exam I will not remember for a word…yes, learning wasn’t my best hobby. Don’t get me wrong, I keep studying new things because I think self-development is one of the most important things in life because it challenges you, but not in a classical way…at least not for me.

Podcasts are the best classrooms. I can do the dishes, cleaning, walking and I can learn from the world’s leaders. You can be an expert about anything and you do not even have to pay a huge amount of money to learn from your idols, role models, or even from scientists. You can learn about anything…history, music, sports, social media, business, cars, money, entrepreneurs, well-being, etc. I started to listen to many podcasts depending on my mood.

My favorites are (of course) Scott Eastwood’s Live Life Better; Oprah Winfrey and the Super Soul Conversations; Tony Robbins and The Tony Robbins Podcast; Joe Rogan and The Joe Rogan Experience; Mel Robbins and The Mel Robbins podcast…and one of my friend’s podcast is What Wild Women Wants with Rachel Rose (if you like spirituality and holistic health this will be your favorite). One of the newest is Archetypes with Megan (yes, Duchess of Sussex), I always liked her as an actress and I do since then. I listen to many more, but not all. 😅

I think this type of education is amazing and makes it easier and quicker to study different areas of the World. What I have learned since I started my “positive journey”, never stops growing. You always need to challenge yourself and be an expert in as many areas of life as you can, because when you feel alive, you can feel confident. Even if you think you know something, just question that knowledge and be open to new opinions, and new views, so you will keep continuing to grow.

I know many of you are just laughing now and saying: “welcome to the 21st century Babe.”, “Podcasts are so obvious and everyone listening to them, where do you come from”. Well, you are right, but as I said so many times in my previous posts, everyone has the “click” or as Oprah says ” aha” moments when the time has come for them to be ready to get the information.🥰

I love you all. Listen to podcasts!!!! 😅

XOXO,

Krisz🥰

P.s: Quotes will be back soon. As I mentioned earlier November will be all about how to slow down. If you don’t want to miss anything, please follow the Spitfires on Instagram and/or Facebook. 😘