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Moved On!

Hello Guys,

I promised videos and constant posting, and I haven’t done it… I am sorry, but I was busy living my life. (I also know this is a perfect excuse, but this happened.) And what is “this”? Well, I’ll let you know soon, but now I would like to say thank you to all of you for all the support I have gotten from you during the almost two years since I first started this blog. The Spirit of Spitfire blog will be two years old next month.🥳

So these happened in the past two months since my last post: Chaos, boxes, packaging, playing with space, cleaning, fish and chips, flying, meeting new people, having fun with old ones and lots of “aunty duty”. And these are only a few of them. 

My best advice if you moving across countries is that: play so much Tetris (if you don’t know what it is, google it, my friend,  because you are not old enough to remember,  but it is the best help ever during the packing process.) Why? Because you will need to fill up all the gaps in every box you have. Trust me, I thought, it was easy to fill up boxes and wrap things. Also, I was so naive that I thought I could label boxes, such as “kitchen” and all the kitchen stuff would be in one box and it would be super easy to find everything. If you want to use all the spaces and want to be cost-effective here are my pieces of advice:

  1. Don’t book “move”, book only a few boxes or items each time, as the moving companies charge more if they have to do a “full move” and less if you send only items home(at least this is my experience regarding the move from London to Hungary).
  2. Please take time and find the best company and most of the time the most popular one, not the best.
  3. Use all the spaces in the boxes and write a label which contains everything that is in the box (even your slippers otherwise you will find yourself in my space… I still cannot find it, but I am sure I have it…maybe next to my cutleries?🤔)
  4. Pack your luggage a week before your flight, because I am 100% sure, you will find “a few” things that you want to take home with you, but remember, you have a weight limit. 🙄

After the last boxes left my home, I started to clean everything ( most of the time the landlords ask this and it is a criteria to have back your deposit, however my landlord didn’t ask this, but I cannot leave a dirty house behind me). I had to buy a new backpack and a small cabin bag too (obviously I needed bigger sizes that I already had… I know, I am a proper woman and still I forgot my fridge magnets. 😥) I felt so tired after everything and I thought I will sleep at least for a month. Thinking about everything during a move is so exhausting.

However the day came (27/08) and for the first time after almost eleven years, when my flight left the islands, I didn’t feel I left the “Alcatraz”, I felt I left my home… I left my life. And honestly, I did. Even if I came back to my home country, London and Great Britain were my home for almost eleven years… I knew I must do this and I must do it now, I have to open a new chapter.

I had to wait at the airport, but it was great, because after the 12 degrees, rain and windy summer in London, I felt 36 degrees, sunshine and blue sky… that’s how I arrived in Hungary. Also, I met nice people at the airport, so it was lovely to wait. 

I’ve been home for more than two weeks now and so far I like it. I know at the moment I’m still in my parents’ house and dressing in boxes, while I’m waiting to move to my flat at the Lake Balaton and I know it helps a lot that I can play with my nephew often, but so far I like it. Also, we celebrated during these two weeks, my nephew’s first birthday and brother’s thirtieth birthday doo and soon my Dad’s birthday is coming (yes, all the men in my family were born in September! 🤣) These are the things I would miss if I don’t make the decision to move on (and many more). I don’t have illusions, I am sure it will be hard times, but my depression and anxiety are much better since I’m around people who love me and whose I love too. 

So next time I will share with you an amazing event I’ve been to during the weekend, called Zrínyi Days. It will be a bit different post, as I would like to share with you a bit of the history of my home town and the reason why it is a big deal every year in our neighbourhood. Because London is amazing, Great Britain is beautiful and everyone knows how wonderful Budapest is, but trust me we have many more hidden gems in Hungary.

I hope you stay with me and together we SipFire up Hungary too. 😘 

Love you guys, and doesn’t matter where you are, never forget this: Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.

XOXO,

Krisz 😘

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Let’s move on

Hello Guys,

I hope you are doing well and enjoying the Summer. First I would like to apologise for the fact that I haven’t posted for a while now. I promise I have a very good reason and I will share it with you in this post.

I mentioned earlier that I´m working on a “big project”…well after more than 10 years living in London, I decided to relocate back to Hungary at least for a year. I know, it is shocking.😅 However, after soo many discussions with family, friends, and people I usually listen to, I decided that this is the best for me at the moment (or at least this is what I feel is the best). Lately, my friends are moved back to their countries, life in London changed a lot after the pandemic and my last visit at home during Christmas time woke me up. 

I usually wait for two things in the year and these two things are my holidays at home with my friends and family. I am the happiest when I am surrounded by them. I am laughing more, I feel better and I feel alive. 

My life in London became just a huge waiting time, while I have done nothing just worked, came home, eat, took a shower and sleep. Don’t get me wrong, I know it is my fault, but still, I was always tired and anxious. I became depressed, even though I had a nice career, and friends and I loved my life in London, I felt sad and lonely. Then I realised, I must change… drastically. First of course I had to start the change in my head and slowly turn my anxiety to hope, but still, I felt something is missing. I was wondering for years if I go back is just a run from my life, but after I moved into a nice place, I had a nice job and nice friends, I still felt this pull… the pull I haven’t felt in 10 years… the one that says, now you need to go and try. No matter what it will be, if you don’t try, you will regret it forever.

So I decided to relocate to Hungary. Why do I say relocate and not “move”? Simple brain hack. My anxiety and depression kicked in when one of my best friends at home ask me The Question: “So do you now move back to Hungary FOREVER?” Well… I started to sweat, I couldn´t bread, I felt I will die for sure… then I started to think… Do I want to move back forever? What if I change my mind? Do they all will be disappointed? Do I need to stay? What if I will change my mind? What if I will not like it after a year? All these questions just came into my mind at once… I felt tired, overwhelmed and to be honest, I just realised that I do not wish to move anywhere FOREVER. But I will buy a one-way ticket to Hungary and all my stuff will be transferred back… so technically, I will move back… and then I started to question everything (I know, again)… Is it really what I want or it is just an escape from my life? 

In the end, I figured out that nothing last FOREVER. I do not HAVE TO do anything. And my brain loves the idea that I go back for at least a year and once the year ends, I will see how I feel. I have a fully settled status in the UK, so in the next 5 years, I can come back anytime. My landlady and her family love me, so she said my flat will be available for me always, no matter who will live in it, they will take it out for me, and my workplace offered the same. 

So finally I decided to try. It wasn´t that quick and easy decision like it was 10 years ago to move here. First I started to think about it 4-5 years ago, we had soo many discussions with my friends here and there too about it, but in the end, I have two (a million others as well) very strong reasons why I do this: 

  1. As I mentioned in the previous post What is your “why”? My biggest why is my nephew. It was always hard to leave behind my friends’ kids, my parents, and my friends, but when I had to handle back my (at that time) 4 months old nephew…my heart was broken. I don´t want to be the aunty who just sending sh@ts and never there. I want to be there for him and never miss any birthdays or Easterns or any other occasions.
  2. At some point, everyone has to grow up and take responsibility. I can live in London and years just come and go and I will be in the same place in my life as I was last year or the years before. My life in London is an extended teenage life. I am having fun, I have money to buy sh@ts, and I have a job, but at the end of the day, most likely I am alone. Almost everyone important to me is in Hungary or will be.

I love my life in London and possibly I will come back or I will go and live somewhere else in the World, but at the moment I feel I need to go home for a bit and see how it will work (or not) for me after more than 10 years living in abroad. 

So I will continue to write blog posts, don´t worry, just not that often until the end of August. But I do not wish you to miss my moving fun, I want to include you guys, so I am working on making short videos and uploading them here, on YouTube and all the social media platforms, so please follow the Spitfires. Also, I am planning to do some mini-courses about mental health, motivation and positive life set later this year, so please just stay with me. During my videos, I also concur with my fears (my first fear is to upload my first video and see how you like me or don´t) and also give you some tips regarding moving out of the UK with a positive mindset of course. Obviously from the end of August, I will show you places in Hungary. I will move next to Hungary´s biggest lake, called Balaton, so I will have enough to share with you and we will continue our positive SpitFirey journey together, only my physical location will change.

Last, but not least, I would like to thank you for all your support here on the blog and on the social media platforms too in the last few years. Hopefully, these videos will help me not just keep my English, but get to know you guys better. 

I will bring the first video soon, but until that, please remember: Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.

XOXO,

Krisz😘

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How to move as a Spitfire (or not)- Part 2

As I promised, I am back with the rest of the story.

So we’re about a week from the moving out date. We were really upset,tired, exhausted and definitely lost. We started the whole process from the beginning. Search for flats (but of course now only for two people), call agents, tell again the situation, etc. Finally there were 2 amazing flats, but The Sign came again…

The agency said we are more than welcome to go and view the properties, but “there is a little bit of an issue with our moving date”. 🙄 Seriously??? Again??? 

Let me explain to you the meaning of the “little bit of issue “- of course if you first thought that mean “we were in the deep shit” , you technically right and dirty minded – it means that they do not like to be on the rush, so what can be done in 2 days, they will do in 3 weeks.

Yes, you are right, another WTF?!?! 

So we visited the 2 properties and we had 2 days left… So much fun! 

Short version: rent a storage room in Southend where we can put our furniture, rent a room on Airbnb, so we can sleep somewhere and pray!!! Pray a lot! 

We did packed our stuff on the 24th to a (rented) van, take them to Southend,but of course not everything could fit in the van (trust me I have selected which are the most important stuff I have…the rest…well RIP), so for a week our Fiat Punto was full of stuff too. It was a huge mess…we were a huge mess.

Do you know for sure when you reach the bottom? Because you start to think clearly and recognize the small signs that maybe can help to sort out your life. On the way back to London we did recognize that maybe we do not have anything to do in Southend. What if we just stay in London and see what life will bring to us? We have decided that we will try with shared houses , because we were sure that we cannot afford a 2 bedroom flat in London. Just set on a bed in an airbnb room, without a home address (technically we became homeless) and waited for destiny. Totally exhausted and hopeless. 

Life is a funny thing guys, because when you let go of something that was actually meant to you, you will get it just as easily as taking a breath. On the flatshare website we found a 2 bedroom flat and you never guess what happened. From the 6-8 application, that 2 bedroom flat was the only place where they did call us and we went to view it. (that was on Wednesday, we had to move out somewhere until Friday, otherwise we will seriously sleep on the street.)

On Thursday at 4pm we signed our 12 months contract for the 2 bedroom flat in London. The other funny fact about this flat is that it is actually in Crouch End, the place what we always loved and always wanted to move there, but the house costs are there way to high for us, and yet, we have got a 2 bed flat for less than what we did paid in our previous house. 🙂 We both cried…after 3 weeks of nightmare and hopeless fight to move to Southend, we did get a flat in one of the most amazing areas of London, just as easily as taking a breath. 🙂 What is this if it is not a miracle???? Maybe I am a dreamer and I am way too optimistic, but this was one of the biggest miracles in my Life. (Slowly I will tell you the others, I promise.) In that week, when we did not have a home, we faced a lot of other small miracles too. I did sell some of my clothes on Vinted, so many random people just smiled to us, we found an amazing printing shop in Palmers Green (Kodak, go there guys because they are so quick and lovely), have back some money from the storage place and last, but not least if you planned to visit London and you do not know where to sleep, book on airbnb one of our host’s amazing rooms. The house is in Palmers Green. It is a lovely area, she is a nice host, helped a lot, smiled a lot and the rooms are huge, clean and tidy. Also she taught me that never plan in your life, because Life will sort you out just the way it is the best for you. You can have dreams, goals and do for them, but not plan. Just let your life happen. 🙂 Thank you, I will be grateful for her help until I live. 🙂 (I can send the link if you wish, guys.)

Also I have another person who’s I have to mention and I think he is one of the best property agents ever. He helped us a lot during the time we have lived in Pelham Road. He was always helpful, nice, kind and one of the nicest people I have ever known. He did everything he could to help us. Even 2 hours after we moved out of the house, we did get back our deposit, which is super quick. I will be grateful for his help as well forever. (If you need a house in North London, ask me for his details and I am sure he will help you too.) 

( I did not forget to mention about my family and friends. They were always next to me and my best friend. They worried about us, cheered for us and they are the best ever. I am grateful for them every single day and I will until I die. ;)- They are the best. Mom, Dad, my brother and his wife, Nicole and Pasquale (I can never be enough grateful for you guys and what have you done to us), and all of them at home, in Hungary. ) Of course Adam has the biggest thanks, due to he is the best friend who did everything with me and whom I still live with. Thank you for being my best friend for 17 years now. 🙂

Of course Friday we went back to Southend and packed our stuff from the storage, packed in Crouch End.We have got another amazing property agent. He is lovely, quick (he did all the paperwork during an afternoon, what on Southend would take 2-3 weeks) and so helpful (you know, ask for his details) We got used to our new home and we finally found peace.

Do I hate my “friend” why she left us? No. She is a nice person and if she thinks earlier, maybe I cannot go home and have the best Christmas Ever in my life, or my Mom could not come and have an amazing time with just the 2 of us here. May we be in Southend, pay less rent, but also we have less salary. May I not learn what I did learn during this time.

What have I learnt? Well so many things. As I mentioned I have learnt to trust people and Life again. I realized that maybe I wanted to go to Southend, but I have nothing to do there. Maybe a month sucks worth it, just to have a nice Christmas and a relaxing week with Mom. I have learnt that we can wish for better things, but we must appreciate what we already have, because nothing is forever and everything is changing…always. No matter what, life never stays the same forever. I have learnt not to take anything or anyone granted. And finally I have learnt to listen to my instinct and trust only the trustful people around me and realized who I can really count on and who’s not. People are just coming and going in your life.

I do understand no what my friend and master Anita always told me about the mirrors. 🙂 Once you criticize someone, stop for a minute and look at yourself in the mirror and find out why those things are frustrating you in the other people, so you will realize that those are the things that you do as well absolutely subconsciously. 

And I finish this story with Anita’s other lesson: “Nobody is your enemy and nobody is your friend. Everyone is in your life to teach you.”

I hope you did enjoy this story and I can help not move like Miss Spitfire! 😉 (I make mistakes so many times. 🙂 )

Next time I will bring you some positive “lessons” about happiness. 😉 

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XOXO,

Miss Spitfire