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How to move as a Spitfire (or not)- Part 2

As I promised, I am back with the rest of the story.

So we’re about a week from the moving out date. We were really upset,tired, exhausted and definitely lost. We started the whole process from the beginning. Search for flats (but of course now only for two people), call agents, tell again the situation, etc. Finally there were 2 amazing flats, but The Sign came again…

The agency said we are more than welcome to go and view the properties, but “there is a little bit of an issue with our moving date”. 🙄 Seriously??? Again??? 

Let me explain to you the meaning of the “little bit of issue “- of course if you first thought that mean “we were in the deep shit” , you technically right and dirty minded – it means that they do not like to be on the rush, so what can be done in 2 days, they will do in 3 weeks.

Yes, you are right, another WTF?!?! 

So we visited the 2 properties and we had 2 days left… So much fun! 

Short version: rent a storage room in Southend where we can put our furniture, rent a room on Airbnb, so we can sleep somewhere and pray!!! Pray a lot! 

We did packed our stuff on the 24th to a (rented) van, take them to Southend,but of course not everything could fit in the van (trust me I have selected which are the most important stuff I have…the rest…well RIP), so for a week our Fiat Punto was full of stuff too. It was a huge mess
we were a huge mess.

Do you know for sure when you reach the bottom? Because you start to think clearly and recognize the small signs that maybe can help to sort out your life. On the way back to London we did recognize that maybe we do not have anything to do in Southend. What if we just stay in London and see what life will bring to us? We have decided that we will try with shared houses , because we were sure that we cannot afford a 2 bedroom flat in London. Just set on a bed in an airbnb room, without a home address (technically we became homeless) and waited for destiny. Totally exhausted and hopeless. 

Life is a funny thing guys, because when you let go of something that was actually meant to you, you will get it just as easily as taking a breath. On the flatshare website we found a 2 bedroom flat and you never guess what happened. From the 6-8 application, that 2 bedroom flat was the only place where they did call us and we went to view it. (that was on Wednesday, we had to move out somewhere until Friday, otherwise we will seriously sleep on the street.)

On Thursday at 4pm we signed our 12 months contract for the 2 bedroom flat in London. The other funny fact about this flat is that it is actually in Crouch End, the place what we always loved and always wanted to move there, but the house costs are there way to high for us, and yet, we have got a 2 bed flat for less than what we did paid in our previous house. 🙂 We both cried
after 3 weeks of nightmare and hopeless fight to move to Southend, we did get a flat in one of the most amazing areas of London, just as easily as taking a breath. 🙂 What is this if it is not a miracle???? Maybe I am a dreamer and I am way too optimistic, but this was one of the biggest miracles in my Life. (Slowly I will tell you the others, I promise.) In that week, when we did not have a home, we faced a lot of other small miracles too. I did sell some of my clothes on Vinted, so many random people just smiled to us, we found an amazing printing shop in Palmers Green (Kodak, go there guys because they are so quick and lovely), have back some money from the storage place and last, but not least if you planned to visit London and you do not know where to sleep, book on airbnb one of our host’s amazing rooms. The house is in Palmers Green. It is a lovely area, she is a nice host, helped a lot, smiled a lot and the rooms are huge, clean and tidy. Also she taught me that never plan in your life, because Life will sort you out just the way it is the best for you. You can have dreams, goals and do for them, but not plan. Just let your life happen. 🙂 Thank you, I will be grateful for her help until I live. 🙂 (I can send the link if you wish, guys.)

Also I have another person who’s I have to mention and I think he is one of the best property agents ever. He helped us a lot during the time we have lived in Pelham Road. He was always helpful, nice, kind and one of the nicest people I have ever known. He did everything he could to help us. Even 2 hours after we moved out of the house, we did get back our deposit, which is super quick. I will be grateful for his help as well forever. (If you need a house in North London, ask me for his details and I am sure he will help you too.) 

( I did not forget to mention about my family and friends. They were always next to me and my best friend. They worried about us, cheered for us and they are the best ever. I am grateful for them every single day and I will until I die. ;)- They are the best. Mom, Dad, my brother and his wife, Nicole and Pasquale (I can never be enough grateful for you guys and what have you done to us), and all of them at home, in Hungary. ) Of course Adam has the biggest thanks, due to he is the best friend who did everything with me and whom I still live with. Thank you for being my best friend for 17 years now. 🙂

Of course Friday we went back to Southend and packed our stuff from the storage, packed in Crouch End.We have got another amazing property agent. He is lovely, quick (he did all the paperwork during an afternoon, what on Southend would take 2-3 weeks) and so helpful (you know, ask for his details) We got used to our new home and we finally found peace.

Do I hate my “friend” why she left us? No. She is a nice person and if she thinks earlier, maybe I cannot go home and have the best Christmas Ever in my life, or my Mom could not come and have an amazing time with just the 2 of us here. May we be in Southend, pay less rent, but also we have less salary. May I not learn what I did learn during this time.

What have I learnt? Well so many things. As I mentioned I have learnt to trust people and Life again. I realized that maybe I wanted to go to Southend, but I have nothing to do there. Maybe a month sucks worth it, just to have a nice Christmas and a relaxing week with Mom. I have learnt that we can wish for better things, but we must appreciate what we already have, because nothing is forever and everything is changing
always. No matter what, life never stays the same forever. I have learnt not to take anything or anyone granted. And finally I have learnt to listen to my instinct and trust only the trustful people around me and realized who I can really count on and who’s not. People are just coming and going in your life.

I do understand no what my friend and master Anita always told me about the mirrors. 🙂 Once you criticize someone, stop for a minute and look at yourself in the mirror and find out why those things are frustrating you in the other people, so you will realize that those are the things that you do as well absolutely subconsciously. 

And I finish this story with Anita’s other lesson: “Nobody is your enemy and nobody is your friend. Everyone is in your life to teach you.”

I hope you did enjoy this story and I can help not move like Miss Spitfire! 😉 (I make mistakes so many times. 🙂 )

Next time I will bring you some positive “lessons” about happiness. 😉 

Oh and don’t forget to follow me here, Facebook and/or Instagram for the daily positive quotes. 🙂

XOXO,

Miss Spitfire

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How to move as a Spitfire (or not)- Part 1

I am sorry I have not written for a long time now, but trust me,when you read the story of my last 2 months, you will understand everything. Usually, I write you some positive and energy boosting stories, and I promise I will,but first, I just want to share with you my last 1,5- 2 months.

May I mention that I live in London with 2 of my friends
 Well, I reduced the amount to only one. Start at the beginning: How did it happen?

As I said we live in London, but last Fall we felt that we had enough of London (now I know it wasn’t about London, it was only a part of it), so we decided to move to Southend-on-Sea. It is a lovely city next to the sea. Quite, clean and only 40 minutes by train from London. The property prices were much lower than in London and we had work opportunities there too. We could save some money from the rent and utility bills. All looked amazing and perfect. So, why not?

We set down and discussed this. My “friend” asked for a bit of time to think about it, due to her jobs in London and she didn’t really want to leave London. She has got 2-2,5 weeks to think about it. She did write “pro/contra lists’ ‘. That’s fair enough, due to not everyone just having enough, pack and move to a different city or even country (yes, it was me). She did put everything on a scale and in the end she decided to come with us. YEEEEPPP!!! ( I say again, it was in November, after at least 2 weeks of thinking.) So we did give our notice for the previous house and we had the moving date: 24th February 2022.

Days, weeks and months past. My Mom came to London, had an amazing Christmas and New Year’s Eve (you know all about). We came back to London after our holiday and we were really excited about the move. 

Here I have to mention a bit about signs. As I said , I am a true believer and I really try to live as positively as I can, and like that I absolutely believe in signs. You can call as you wish God/Universe/Life/Etc., but I am sure we always receive signs which guide us in the right direction. If we are clever enough to listen to them we would have less pain in our life. I also told you that I am very stubborn
so like this, I always learn the hard way. Time has come to start searching for our new home. And we did.

First sign was actually that the government made a decision: if more than 2 people wish to rent a whole house, then the landlord has to have a license called HMO license. This license came with a lot of obligations from the landlord (for example the house has to have at least 2 bathrooms, x size of a kitchen, x amount of rooms, etc.). So of course not that many landlords wish to have this complication in their life, so we had our first problem: we couldn’t find a landlord who wants to have us. Sucks
yes
but the story is far away from the end. You know me guys, I am not the kind of girl who just gives up after the first try. No. We have tried to find a solution which can be good for our future landlord and for us too. And we did. If these 3 people are related then the landlord does not have to pay the HMO. (Related means: marriage, family, kids, siblings, cuisines and of course you are able to proof it- bills on all of your names, previous tenancy agreements, etc.). Guess what? We became cuisines. 🙂 Problem solved. We were happy and even found a house. 

Second sign: We were about to go to Southend, see the house and make an offer. Technically just to go and sign the papers. (It was a week before we had to move out.) Half an hour before we were about to depart from our house, my “friend” said that it cost way too much to travel every single day to London (which she just checked the night before- £300), so she cannot come with us. My best friend and I must move out together without her. WTF????? (And now I mean What The F@ck???????????) She asked for time to think, she said she has done research and lists
 and yet, she said 30 minutes before we had to depart to move, that she cannot afford the train tickets
 Seriously???? I think even Buddha could be f@cking upset about this. So we stood there a bit more than one week from the moving out date, no house,no options and had to start everything from the beginning.

What could we do? How do we sort it out? What was the solution? How we became technically homeless for a week? How does the story end? What have I learnt from all these? And most importantly how does a Spitfire make a magic of all of these situations? You will know if you will follow me and read the next part of the story. 😉

Trust me this is just the beginning. 🙂

XOXO,

Miss Spitfire

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Perfection…

Do we always need to be perfect? What does it even mean to be perfect? How you can be? What if I am perfect for my family and I am not for the rest of the World? Perfect means to have the ideal shape? Okay, so what does ideal shape mean? Or does perfect means that I have a degree and I am working in a big multinational company, and have a huge salary (okay, another one, what does the huge salary means?), a husband, house, car, (okay in my age) children? 

What does it mean to be perfect?

To be honest, perfect does not and it does exist. We are different and “perfect” means different things for each of us. The same is that we all want to be perfect for our ideal self, instead we accept the fact that we are who we are and only change, not because someone said that you’re not perfect, change because you want to. Change, because you don’t feel right anymore in your skin. 

I think the biggest  problem is that we don’t even know what we want, how we can be perfect for ourselves. We tell our “ideal story” and we don’t even want that. We tell our parents, friends, loved ones stories and not ours. We want to get married and have kids, because “this is normal”. We don’t even see that we want to please the World with “our dreams”. (Of course respect to the one who’s really living their dreams and making steps for their own wishes.)

The point is that we want to be perfect and to meet the expectations that the World has for us. Like my country has a “funny” proverb to explain a “Dream Girl/Woman”: “ The good woman is a chef in the kitchen, a mistress in the company and a whore in the bed.”

Well
guess what? If you cannot cook, you are not a “perfect woman”. Or you want to be an actress,but you are a bit fluffy and they say that you cannot be an actress, because you are fat. Or the opposite way, your parents are lawyers and even your grandparents were lawyers , so they want you to be a lawyer, but you love music and you want to be a musician and in the end you become a lawyer, because you want to make them happy. 

These are just some of the many expectations that we would like to achieve. And in the meantime we lost ourselves. We don’t even know what we want.

As I said, I have been in my country during the holidays. When I meet with my best friend at home, she always reminds me that I am not getting younger, so I should get married and have kids before it’s too late. 🙂 

Yepp, I have had this in my mind for years and I wanted to be “perfect” for these ideas. I wanted to get married and have kids, just because everyone wanted these things around me, so I thought that these are normal and something is wrong with me. Guess what? These weren’t my dreams at that time. I wanted a career and life, to see the World. Even I made myself stuck in a relationship that wasn’t even good for me, because I wanted to get married. I have planned the names of my kids. Only because I wanted to be “perfect” and make my loved ones happy. And that’s another subject, because do you think we can make people happy if we are not happy at all? (Trust me: NO!)

What now? Now I truly want these things, but I will not jump from the roof, if I cannot get them. Now, I am perfect how I am.

I am loud, stubborn, talking way too much, short, love every kind of sweets, love dancing, watch stupid Hallmark movies, Zumba, Yoga, meditation, dreamy, way too organized, lover of the “to do lists” and white boards, positive, smiley, very impationed, selfish, angry and
.guess what?…f@cking perfectionist. 🙂

I think we all should be who we are and perfectly imperfect, just how we are and live this life how it is good for us and don’t give a sh@t for other’s opinion. The key is to find how we can be perfect for ourselves.

Live like a real Spitfire and don’t feel ashamed. 

I love all your imperfections.

XOXO

Miss Spitfire

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Being in The Present

Hello Spitfires!!!! 🙂

I know I haven’t posted for a while, sorry guys, but I have been in the Present. What does it mean and why is it very important? I will let you know in this post. 

As I mentioned previously I am not from the UK, but I have lived here since 2013. So it means from time to time I am back to my country and visit my family and friends. I have been in my country and I spent the holidays there with my loved ones. I had such an amazing time. Lots of food, drinks, laughs, talks, games and all the fun you can imagine. But how does it explain why I was off writing? Well, I was in the Present.

Most people (including me) can lose easily to planning the future, organizing the next steps to achieve dreams, thinking of the next holidays, new challenges and trying to figure out what the Future will bring. Especially at the beginning of a new year. To plan ahead is very important and to make steps for the future is essential, but so many times we are just lost in the Future and we don’t recognise the amazing things happening around us. So we clearly are not in the Present.

When I am with my family and friends, I like to be really with them. Like to listen to them, see them and be there for them. Not just physically, but emotionally and give them all my attention. Maybe because I don’t spend that much time in my country, when I am there, I like to be lost in the landscape, the smalls, the sounds, study the nature and just feel it. I know it sounds so cheesy (especially from me), but this is the truth. It is very important to me to store every single moment when I am there. Even though I feel a bit guilty why I am not doing my usual yoga, run, exercises, meditation, and other “positive techniques” when I am at home, but this is normal, when you are on holiday, you do not follow your everyday life routine. It is impossible and unnecessary, because you do more for your positive attitude, if you are just enjoying your time when you are on holiday.

Even when I am back in my life, I try to discover new things and try to be in the Present as much as I can. It is hard to be in the Present in our everyday life. I assume just like me, you have a routine for everything. Wake up at the same time everyday. Go to your workplace (even if it is in the living room), have a daily routine, lunch break, close your laptop, go home, prepare dinner, etc.Really hard to be in the Present like that.

I have a little game that I am playing to stay in the Present during my everyday routine. Most of us use public transport. So when I am on the tube, bus, train, airport or every other crowded places (if you work from home you can do this when you are in the shop to do the grocery shopping or just during your daily walk), I give myself at least 5-10 minutes to have a look around me and asking the same question: “ What can I love/like here and now?” So easy, but it helps a lot to stay in the Present. Maybe you like someone’s hair, boots, jackets, the book they read, the phone, the bags, the attitude, the jewellery, anything. Funny and useful, because you are in the Present and focus on positive things.When you do this game obviously you cannot focus on 2 things at the same time, so you are not able to think about your future, job,dinner etc., because you are looking at something you like just right Now. Also it is good, because you are positive, you have positive vibes when you are focusing on something you like or love. 

The key is where you focus. Even if I feel worried about something or stressed, I stop for 5 minutes (yes, go to the loo, so no one can interrupt or say that you are just stopped. It is easier if you work from home for sure) and have a look at what I can like/love. If you cannot see anything (because you are in the loo and if you are not a loo liker, hard to find anything nice), just think about and list at least 5 things why/who you can be grateful for. 

For me it always works, BUT we are not the same and that’s normal. As I always say, question me, because I do not talk about facts, so I will never say that it is the best for you too. I think it is worth giving it a try.

During this year I have decided to share with you the exercises I do daily, weekly and monthly. I will let you know about how I became more positive and how I transformed from a very pessimistic person to a very optimistic one.

Stay with me, have a super time and enjoy this amazing Spitfires’ life I will try to show you!

XOXO,

Miss Spitfire

P.S.: You can ask any question, any time if you wish, just find me on Facebook, Instagram or here via comments. 🙂

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New Year’s resolutions

Is New Year really equal to the new me? Do we really change a bit each year beginning? Why do we need the new year’s resolutions? Do we need them or just a nice cliche? Really the number at the end of the date will change everything? What’s the reason for the resolutions?

I don’t know how you feel about the end of the year, and I know it seems like a big cliche, but I think every New Year brings a new chance for a new beginning. Of course it will be a new year and a new number at the end of the date, but I always feel this is a new beginning. Most of the people make new year’s resolutions and we all know not that much will still exist longer than February. The most common of course to lose weight, stop smoking, stop drinking, eat healthier, go to gym every day, etc. I have my own kind of tradition.

Before or on the last day of each year I make a list. I take out my last year list(s) and check what I have got, what I achieved and what is left. After that I think if I still would like to get those that are left from last year or not. If I still feel I really want those things, I write again to the new list.

Every year the list has some categories, such as relationships, money, career, family, travel, “me time”, personal growth, etc. the most important parts of my life on the paper each year. I write down everything I really wish to get in the next 12 months.

It is very funny and interesting how much our wishes can change during a year or how many things we can achieve. Usually 80% of the list ticked and the funny part is, the points are not ticked I never really wanted. 

This “exercise” is very good to realize our dreams, where we need to still work and see how much we changed. I have been doing this for 5-6 years now and usually I take out all my lists before I start to do the new one to see how much I have changed.

The key is that we should write down everything. Since I started to practice positive thinking, the first rule that I have learnt is that we need to write down everything that we wish to get. Why? Because, if you just talk and think about something most likely you will never take a step to get it. No evidence, so no one knows if we do not lift a finger to work for it, so no guilt either. Instead if you grab a paper and list everything, you will have physical evidence that you have something to work on, you cannot be lazy, you start to feel guilt and most likely you and start to take steps for it. Each time you read the list, your unconscious mind starts to work on the solutions to get each thing. Your mind realizes that you do not have those things, so need a “plan” or “way” to have them. This is just simple psychology. But this is another post’s subject. 🙂

So if you want to take steps for your next year or just want to have a bit of fun, grab a paper and list all your wishes. (Don’t forget, this is still the holiday season, so magic works stronger.- Just saying. 😉 ) 

I am sure one of the points will be this year on my list to continue to be with you and may even help you Spitfires. 🙂

Happy New Year to all of you and see you in 2022!!! 🙂

XOXO,

Miss Spitfire