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4 Easy steps to come back

Hello, hello

I know, I haven’t posted for a while. I am sorry, but I had to have a break from everything and everyone. I spent the holidays with my family and it was absolutely lovely. But since I came back to London, my life became so crazy. No lights, dark days, and lots of work. I realized that I burned out.

In the past months, I have just done my work, came home, eaten, and slept. I have done nothing. I was so tired, sleepy, and grumpy. I turned on the survivor mode. My energy level went down. So I had to turn it off. I know everyone is surprised and trust me, I was too.

I am a hurricane. I was and still am, a very energetic, organized, enthusiastic, positive, and absolutely hyperactive woman. So it hit me so hard that I don’t have energy, I didn’t want to do anything, just sleep. I thought something is wrong with me and I had no idea how can I come back again and be myself. I know it sounds weird, but I love to be a hurricane, with millions of plans, and tasks, and never sit down and be calm. It took me so long to accept that I am like this and that this is normal because this is me. Also, it was so hard to accept that from time to time we all burnt out. This is normal too. 

Well, you know me now, so you know that I am not a patient person. I get what I want because I will never rest until I get it. So the past months were suffering because I knew I want to be myself again, but I did not have the energy. Guess what? It is normal too.

I thought it is important to tell you that sometimes we all need to have rest. Slow down and just be. It is normal that we are not positive all the time. It is normal to be grumpy, negative, and tired. We need to give time to ourselves. Need time to feel these things too, because that’s the only way to rise again, to get back our energy level and go again. You are not less positive, you are a human. 

I am sure I told you this, but to be positive doesn’t mean that we always smile, happy and three meters above the clouds. It doesn’t mean that we don’t have bad days, we cannot be tired and have enough of the whole world. It doesn’t mean that sometimes we don’t give a shit and just f@ck for the fairytales. Life is a journey, with ups and downs. If we do not have the downs, we cannot appreciate the ups. Simply because we don’t know the difference. To experience and fully live the good, we have to get the inconveniences too. 

What made me realize this, how I stand up again, and why now? Funny. I think this week was the worst. On Wednesday, I went to the office and I felt so sleepy. Literally, I could sleep while I was standing. And it hit me on my face… my friend told me that something is really wrong with me because I am not complaining. F@CK! There it was. Just hit me. I have done nothing since I came back from my holiday, just complaining and feeling sorry for myself. 

How did I get back to my normal? I didn’t…at least not yet. Life is not like this. One day you’re down then the other day, you kick your ass and you’re back in the clouds. That’s bullshit. I am not a hypocrite, I thought that it should work like this. I had to realize that it is a process. It took me months to be this down emotionally, so it will take me some time to get back on track. 

BUT, this is a positive blog, so I will share with you how I started. (This is not the first time in my life when I am totally down, so I have my method for this situation.)

  1. Accept. This is the first and the hardest step, but the most important as well. You have to swallow all your pride (trust me, I am one of the most stubborn people ever, so I know how hard it is) and accept that something is wrong and that’s okay.
  2. Sit down. Take time to sit down and find out what is wrong. If you want to solve a problem, first you have to identify the actual problem. It can be more than one. Just find out. Identify the problem(s). 
  3. Plan. Don’t need to be a big plan and please give Life (God/Universe/ Mother Earth, etc.) a chance to give better. But have a plan. That will be a guide. Needs to be written. You should have a “deadline”(realistic and it can be flexible) too. Break it down for days, weeks, years, etc. (What is not written is not real. If you write down your dreams, breaking them down, they will be goals and most likely you can achieve them.)
  4. Do the first step. As I said you cannot back to 100% from -100% in one day, so just find out what you can do NOW. It is important that you have to do something immediately. (Simple psychology. Lots of studies prove that immediate action is a brain hack that helps you feel small success as you have done something to be better, but does not overwhelm and scare you, so you most likely continue.) Work for it every day.

Step by step. Just be patient with yourself. And don’t forget, it is okay. So kick your ass, get the spark from your (Spit)fire, and just do it! 😘

Don’t have to be always strong to be a Hero.

XOXO,

Krisz😘

P.s.: Quotes will be back in March. 😎 Don’t forget to follow the Spitfires on Facebook, Instagram, or here. 

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Podcast relax

Hello guys,

I hope you are doing well. I cannot believe it’s already November. One of my favorite months, because nature has amazing colors, everything is just slowing down and starting the preparation for the winter…or in my case for Christmas. 

I have started this part of the blog where I will share my recommendations, favorites, and things which helped me during the years of my positive journey. And this post will be one of my many recommendations. Also, I recently wrote about the importance of slowing down, so I bought a tip for you on how to educate while you are just stepping back a bit from your crazy busy life. November will be all about slowing down and relaxing. I plan to bring some tips about how to be more relaxed. It will be a very exciting month, I promise.

So what I have realized is literally 24 hours is not enough for me (okay “fun fact” that I am capable of sleeping like, and as much as a baby, but I need at least 8 hours of sleep to be able to function) to do everything I wish and also like to do. I like to do so many different things, such as Zumba, dance, meditation, yoga, eat ( one of my favorites), sleep, sometimes cook or bake, read, learn, etc. So I had no idea how I fit into my busy schedule of self-development. My best friend said that he loves listening to podcasts and my first reaction was: “Dude, I have no time and even I don’t like to listen to one subject, I love listening to music, but not people talking.” Guess what he introduced me to Joe Rogan’s podcasts (okay, I am a huge fan of Scott Eastwood, so the interview with him) and my whole world changed. Let’s make it something clear, I do not like to listen to thematic podcasts because I am never really sure which subject is interesting to me, but I love to listen to totally different subjects. However, positivity, mindset, self-growth, and well-being will always interest me. Since that interview, I became a huge fan of podcasts because finally, I have “time to learn” most easily and quickly. I love learning new stuff, but the fact that my mind is just as hyperactive as my entire self… Well, the classroom learning is just simply freaking me out. Staying over the books, and memories for hours, and the next day after the exam I will not remember for a word…yes, learning wasn’t my best hobby. Don’t get me wrong, I keep studying new things because I think self-development is one of the most important things in life because it challenges you, but not in a classical way…at least not for me.

Podcasts are the best classrooms. I can do the dishes, cleaning, walking and I can learn from the world’s leaders. You can be an expert about anything and you do not even have to pay a huge amount of money to learn from your idols, role models, or even from scientists. You can learn about anything…history, music, sports, social media, business, cars, money, entrepreneurs, well-being, etc. I started to listen to many podcasts depending on my mood. 

My favorites are (of course) Scott Eastwood’s Live Life Better; Oprah Winfrey and the Super Soul Conversations; Tony Robbins and The Tony Robbins Podcast; Joe Rogan and The Joe Rogan Experience; Mel Robbins and The Mel Robbins podcast…and one of my friend’s podcast is What Wild Women Wants with Rachel Rose (if you like spirituality and holistic health this will be your favorite). One of the newest is Archetypes with Megan (yes, Duchess of Sussex), I always liked her as an actress and I do since then. I listen to many more, but not all. 😅

I think this type of education is amazing and makes it easier and quicker to study different areas of the World. What I have learned since I started my “positive journey”, never stops growing. You always need to challenge yourself and be an expert in as many areas of life as you can, because when you feel alive, you can feel confident. Even if you think you know something, just question that knowledge and be open to new opinions, and new views, so you will keep continuing to grow.

I know many of you are just laughing now and saying: “welcome to the 21st century Babe.”, “Podcasts are so obvious and everyone listening to them, where do you come from”. Well, you are right, but as I said so many times in my previous posts, everyone has the “click” or as Oprah says ” aha” moments when the time has come for them to be ready to get the information.🥰

I love you all. Listen to podcasts!!!! 😅

XOXO,

Krisz🥰

P.s: Quotes will be back soon. As I mentioned earlier November will be all about how to slow down.  If you don’t want to miss anything, please follow the Spitfires on Instagram and/or Facebook. 😘

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Slow down!

Hello guys,

I hope you are all well and enjoying the beauty of the fall. I know I have not posted for a while here or on my social media, but I had to slow down. 

I am a very energetic, hyperactive and always on the move person. Never stop! Stop? Sit down? Relax? Never really was in my vocabulary. To be honest, during the past years I have gotten better, but I am still addicted to stress. I couldn’t leave without it. Well, now I had no other chance, because life just actually did shut me down.

Two weeks ago I got a really bad cold. People who know me, also know that cold never stopped me from working and especially never forced me to stay in my bed…at least not longer than a day. I have spent five whole days in my bed, having tea, medicine and everything to get better. I literally couldn’t get out of my bed, I physically wasn’t able to do so.

And that made me think about the importance of slowing down, stopping, relaxing and listening to my body. 

I believe that your body and your soul are always telling you what to do and what is the best for you. I worked a lot, never stopped stressing, I had so many activities after work too, the blog, the pictures, the new projects which I have just started…well I got overwhelmed and my body physically stopped me and saved me from myself.

In my opinion a cold or any kind of illness has two parts:

a.) Physical. This is clear, your body is tired and needs to stop to recover.

b.) Emotional. It can be any kind of “negative” (or how I call “emotions that no longer serves you”) emotions.

I believe that we only will be better for good, if we start with the emotions part. We need to find out how we hurt ourselves, not always consciously, sometimes we do not even realize. Sometimes these are “small” things (at least no one even thinks about those that can affect us in a really bad way) such as guilt, sadness, judging, and negative self-talk. 

Have you ever caught yourself you made a mistake and you just said “oh, I am so stupid”…do you see my point? We don’t think it could hurt. Or what about when you see someone on the tube and you start “really, did she/he not have a mirror, what does she/he looks like”?…yes my friends, pure judgment. I could tell you a million other examples, but I think you got it.

We are always so busy in our everyday life…grab the kids from school, cook something for dinner, go to work, do some exercise, even we stressing ourselves when we try to relax…our mind is not relaxing even when we finally dedicated the time to do so…how many of you just sit down to watch a movie and in the meantime you thinking about that you need to go to grocery shopping the next day, make the presentation on time, need to visit the parents, etc. My special favorite, that’s what I do most of the time: schedule X amount of time to read, exercise, even with meditation and during my relaxing “me time”, I can’t relax, because I am constantly checking my clock, just to make sure I will not spend one extra minute on each “task”, because than the whole schedule will be screwed up. Yes… I know, it is so pathetic that I am stressing about my relaxing time. 

What I want to say here is that please listen to yourself. And now I see someone’s eyes are rolling and asking me the magic question: How? Well, that’s easy, just ask yourself frequently “What would make me happy?”. That’s it. And let it go. Don’t force the answer. Maybe today it will be a bunch of flowers or a cake…cool, do it. (Maximum tomorrow you will spend an extra half an hour on the gym🤷🏼) Go for a walk, call a friend, watch a movie, have a glass of wine…whatever makes you feel happy, but ask and listen!!!! Don’t wait until your body shuts you down…trust me it will do it sooner or later.

Fall is about to slow down and prepare for the winter. As nature transforms itself and starts to prepare, slowing down, we should do the same. During the summer we collected a lot of energy from the long days, from the experiences during the holidays, we spent so much time in the sun, we did it to be prepared for the colder months. As the days get shorter, everyday is getting darker, our body must be slowed, must be prepared.

I will try to share with you from my life and my preparation as much as I can, to do it together and slow down together. So follow the blog on Instagram and Facebook to get tips to slow down and ask as many questions as you like. Even a Spitfire allowed to slow down and relax a bit. ❤

I love all of you so much! ♥️

XOXO

Krisz🥰